You probably have seen each other naked more times than you count and you surely would have tried everything at least once and you two still have a lifetime together ahead. Things may become monotonous with each passing day and you need to make efforts, just like your man, to keep the excitement factor in the relationship.

One of the biggest mistakes that wives, across the globe, make is not to initiate sex. They would always want the man to start things and arouse them and think that initiating is a clear sign of proving lust. But this negative and biased approach to a married relationship actually kills the relationship as men feel unwanted or start assuming that they are not good in bed.

It is important for you to note that making the first move does not make you horny or a loose-character girl in the eyes of your man. You may think that coming to him in sexy lingerie or unbuttoning the jeans or blouse is more than an initiative but that is not. An initiative is a kiss, touch, or anything that immediately leads to love making. Remember, men want their women to be aggressive and direct.

In most modern day homes, there are days fixed by women for sex. How bad that is for a husband whom you expect to fulfill all your needs on a daily basis. He is not all about sex but is love meant to be reserved for some days, shouldn’t it be spontaneous? If you are making convenience a condition for sex, you surely do not deserve to be in a relationship. Just because you have low libido does not mean that your husband has it too and then try to blame him for being horny. Gosh! Try understanding him, his emotions, his love, and yes his initiative to make love is more than just having sex – he wants to kiss you, cuddle you, touch you, give you pleasure, and bring out the best in the relationship. If he would not come to you to satisfy his needs (read sex here), were will he go? You should actually be proud of your relationship that you still mean and appear hot to him. Think on it for a while and you will get the answers by yourself.

Believe it or not, each one of us thinks about sex at some point or another in a day. If you do not, there is surely some problem with the libido but that is not our point of focus with this article. In this piece of information, we will be emphasizing upon sexual fantasies of women that should be expressed before men.

Daydreaming sex by women about being submissive in the bedroom does not mean that they are weak or not interested in sex. It means that women want to engage in sex stuff that otherwise may seem too taboo.

Dreaming about having sex with some one who is not the partner does not amount to cheating. It only shows that the zeal is still there to be explored and the woman is more than ready to be stimulated with new sexual experiences and enjoying the thrill of being loved in the bed with something new (new sex techniques or places).

Women like to be explored slowly and steadily. For this, men need to go slow and admire the sexy curves of the female body before going all nude in the bed. Just like men love oral sex, women love it too and a man hoping to derive some real satisfaction must be more than willing to return back the favor. If your man is not going the below-way, it is time for you to make him aware that your body parts need special attention and you will blow him like never before if he makes the right move.

In the first part of this two-part series, we read about some common sex myths and facts. In this second part, we will be answering some more queries on sex so that you can enjoy a tension-free sexual life.

Is sexual intercourse painful?

Sex can be painful for a girl if she is tense or nervous, as her body may not be able to produce natural lubrication in case of stress. This makes her vaginal muscles tense that in turn makes penetration by the penis difficult. To avoid pain during sex, you can make use of a lubricant such as Vaseline or moisturizing cream but these lubricants can cause the condom to tear. It is suggested that you use water-based lubricants like KY Jelly to make things comfortable for you and the partner. Not all sexual intercourses are painful.

What is oral sex?

Oral sex involves giving or receiving stimulation in an oral form. Oral sex given to a man is known as blowjob while oral sex given to a woman is known as cunnilingus. It is worth noting that a woman cannot get pregnant with oral sex even if she swallows the sperm but oral sex can lead to STDs.

Is oral sex with a condom safe?

Condoms can be extremely effective in protecting against STDs while giving oral pleasure to man but do make sure that the condom-in-use is used properly and does not split or burst. Men can make use of female condoms such as dental dams to give oral sex to women.

Is there a need to use condoms during oral sex?

Condoms must always be used for anal sex so that the risk of passing on or contracing STDs is reduced.

My man use condoms, should I still use birth control pills?

Birth control pills are effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies and there is no harm in following a double safety approach, which can protect you from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.