Failure to reach their desires can cause great pain in this period. Therefore, the way in which you measure your efficiency will determine your success in this stage. How do you measure your output or success? How does this measure impact your display of love, respect, and truthfulness? Many people in this stage judge their productivity by morally relativistic values. They look at how society measures efficiency. If you measure your output by symbols of success such as money, you will concentrate your efforts on the pursuit of those symbols. Along the way you may have to give up in other areas, including time away from the other person in your relation. Wealth and other typical signs of efficiency are worthwhile pursuits, as long as you do not describe your worth and value by your achievement of them.

In this phase of development, people evaluate their self-potential to their current achievements. Take time to recognize personal growth opportunities along with your new life understanding. Focus on your capability to meet new people, participate in new actions, and gain new skills, which will help you to get to this potential. People in this phase also want to attain self-acceptance. In order to do this, you must be able to develop pragmatic goals in life. These steps may help assuage the emotional distress that goes along midlife. Your relationships may depend fully upon it!

The right relationship should be filled with joy and pleasure. It can and should be ecstasy, most of the time.

Bliss in a relationship does not denote lack of trouble, confrontations or disappointments. Bliss is not velvetiness, lack of clash, or insipidness.

It is the breach of the heart, the link of soul to soul, and the dialogue where everything is revealed and nothing is detained back. It is joy collective and the sweet sorrow of misery felt and embraced jointly. Ecstasy is shared laughter and commingled cry. All of it developed with time, as sugary as aged wine, opened not a minute too shortly.

Does a relationship where you have to settle for crumbs of correlation bring pleasure? Does a bond where you have to be someone new than yourself stimulates your heart? Does a relationship where you cannot intensely and finally ask for what you desire and get it touch your soul?

Does your relationship wake up you to the pleasure of link or deprive you of that pleasure? If your answer is of denial, of lonely sadness, of extrication, what will you do to modify the course you are on? Can you allow yourself to be in a connection full of joy and pleasure?