Today people are heading in scores towards this virtual medium called the ‘internet’ to find their dates. The process however is not as easy as it sounds. More so because finding someone intriguing enough on the internet only comes after surfing a lot of profiles and putting in hours and hours of mind labor. But as the story moves ahead, we often end up committing some mistakes that may spoil our broth in a way we would have never imagined. Let’s find out what are these.
All right, I’ll start from where it all starts, step by step so that our newbies know what happened while dating on the net and how! This is may take two or more articles so stay put and listen to what I have to say.
So after skimming through endless profiles you do come across someone pretty interesting and both of you start exchanging mails. This goes on for a couple of weeks until one fine day he asks if he can call you. Your heart skips a beat, mind stirs and the following evening both of you talk for the first time.
Always remember that this is a virtual medium and that you should be ready for surprises. The imaginative quotient is quiet high when you are using a virtual medium to communicate with a person. So you may build certain visuals in your head which might have to see their grave once the reality strikes you.
So after a spending a couple of weeks talking on the phone, he invites you for dinner. This seemed most obvious owing to the bustling chemistry between you two. What follows next is the hysteria of getting things at the right place, for the coming occasion. If you are dating after a long time now, your immediate thought will be to invent a new person within you who is as smart and dandy as you are expected to be. So you start thinking about what dress to wear and which haircut will bring out the best in you.
The final evening arrives. Something within you makes you nervous. It’s the sense of anticipation of course. And then you see him and just know that he is the guy, though he is much too different from what he was in the picture. You find him a bit heavier perhaps and his voice isn’t what you thought it’d be in person. A sense of discomfort comes in. Your new shoes are hurting and you are afraid you might just wobble.
You talk for an hour but a few moments later, monotony seems to settle in. You start looking at tour watch, deny the dessert. There are a few nuances of bits of your conversation with him. Nothing seems to falling in place. All enthusiasm has eluded you. All you can think of now is that you need to get home at the earliest because you have an early start in the office tomorrow. Good byes are bid and he asks you to call him.
So from the next day on, emails from the other end start pouring in telling about how wonderful he thinks you are and all sorts of things. Since you had thought that he would be something like what you had thought and has built our entire life (read future) around him, you are just not able to control your discomfort against him anymore.
A few days later, he asks you out again. So what do you do next?
This is one of the many ways how dates arising from internet seem to be. In order to know more and how should you deal with it, sift through my next article.