Finding a perfect mate for some women is a dream they live almost everyday of their lives where as for some it is just an illusion. Where the world and the literature is full of examples telling us that there’s exists a dream partner, present times have a different story to tell.

I am not against the fact that we can’t find a perfect mate for ourselves. We surely can but our approach towards this search does not suit the present scenario or rather no one should ever employ that thought thinking she’ll find a man of her dreams one day.

See the fact is when we first create an image of the kind of person we want in our life, it becomes static in our mind. We have exact boundaries of what should the person be doing, thinking, eating, dressing and behaving. And when we start meeting real men around us, we are never able to relate to any of them because we feel that they are somehow not fitting into our image-eligibility criteria of accepting them as our partner. So even if we like someone but he is a shade different from the image we are bearing in our mind, we drop him. And so our search and wait for our perfect mate goes on and on and on.

You know if we get a bit deeper into this, this like a rat race which possibly never ends. No man (made up of flesh and blood) can fit into the criteria of being your perfect one until you learn to accept his uniqueness as a person. Every individual is different in his own way and your mind (unless you are god) can ever carve out the exact qualities a man will ever have and then dream about it.

What is important for you to think is what do you really crave for as a person? Once you become aware about your own innate self, you learn that meeting different people and appreciating their uniqueness isn’t a burden on you. Once you are sure of the basic thing you seek in a person, the rest can be just put to god because you never know a wonderful person may come your way and make you happier than you ever thought to be with the virtual man in your mind.

The idea here is to be open as a person; take time to meditate as to what is important in your life and you’ll never victimize yourself with an image and spend all your life around it.

Last heard, stress, depression and anxiety wreak havoc on the libido. Not exactly is this the breaking news stuff but much more pertinent today than ever. Since the times are worrying and too much of competition is killing the happy you The worries are eating you away. And if the man doesn’t share this havoc with his wife, he may be adding up to his problems.

If you avoid the sex, or if you show less interest in it, then your wife may suspect you of having an affair or loosing interest in her, etc.
The reason behind this kind of thinking from her side is surely due to the lack of communication, if you do not tell your wife about the crisis you are facing and this is the reason you are not able o get close with her physically, she is bound to think negative and grow crazy thinking negative.

Stress is a big buzz kill in bed, but the non-denying fact is that it also helps you come physically close in the troubled times. Sex certainly helps you share your problems more genuinely. To give you a nice quote about it, it is not just about unbuttoning your man’s shirt, but about unbuttoning his heart and his worries and yup becoming more close to his heart.

But with worries regarding your mortgages and the bills to pay, sex actually takes a back seat. But you must not forget, it is not about having sex, but it is about being together. If you are not up for sex then make sure that you must opt for activities which involve physical closeness. Some sports like swimming, tennis, biking, cooking or gardening, or say jus simple exercise can bring you close. Do anything which you think can bring you close, the only thing being that you stay true to yourself and your man about your feelings.

Nothing beats physical closeness your relationships lifesaver. Like they say, the best things in life are free. And sex is not only that but a great way to burn calories, relieve tension and forge bonds, which for one, can’t be liquidated. And thank god for that.

There are many women who thinks that men do not fall in any relationship very easily and in hurry. But this is not true in all cases. Men want relationship which have exclusive features and they expect more than women do.

Men settle faster in their exclusive relationship than women do whereas women take their time and date other men but when she decides to be in any relationship and find him to be exclusive, she never realizes that the man who decide to be in a relationship with her has already seeing her exclusively.

So when both of you thinks that you are exclusive for each other and why men exclusive relationship with women? A women ask herself that whether the man is dating him exclusively or he is seeing some other women also. Try to find out that whether he is dating somebody else or not, he is some profile on dating site or not.

When you first meet online, it is not required to take your profile down right away. After all, one date doesn’t mean much. However, my surveys of men have proven my point that men want exclusive relationships. At least, most men do. Reasons that men want to become exclusive faster than women are that exclusive dating means less work for a man. This is probably the biggest reason a man becomes exclusive with a woman.