If you ask a woman whether she’s ever been jealous or not in her life, she’d be lying if she denies it. Jealously they say is the most frequent emotion felt by females around the globe. Though there are many reasons leading to it and it is only human to feel so, it can become dangerous if you don’t keep in under control. Many a times despite knowing that we are heading in a wrong direction, we are not able to put a halt to it. However, if we know the source or the cause of it, controlling it becomes much easier.

Let’s find out!

I do understand that when you feel jealous, it does not come out as a conscious well-thought out feeling. All you know that you are feeling that way, right? Here is exactly where you need to stop, my friend. I know it will be difficult for you to do it, but every time you feel jealous, make a conscious effort to ask yourself why you are feeling that way. Is it because the person you are in a relationship with is providing you with enough reasons to feel his way or is it because of your self esteem?

Well, if you think otherwise, let me tell you that feeling jealous is a good way of lowering it. So no matter what is the cause behind you feeling this way, it is important for you to conquer it else it can cause massive damage to your self-esteem. Now over here you need to think as to where is your jealousy coming from and then try to find our why does it make you jealous.

Many women feel jealous with other females when they see that they are getting more attention from men than them. You know a simple thing to understand here is that no one is same in this world. Each of us are born with a certain set of unique qualities which are special only to us. And when we work hard to become the best we can be, we become attractive in our own special way. A great depends on people getting attracted to someone as well. If they are genuine and sensible people, see what it is that is making them so fond of the other female. If you feel the quality in her is genuine enough, you should respect it and appreciate her to be that way. But if you want to capture the limelight too, work hard on yourself to be better than your best and you’ll see that you have already improved a great deal as a person.

There is no need to feel bad about people running after materialistic or shallow things. If you feel jealous when your boyfriend talks to other women, is it because of the fear of being betrayed by him? Well, such kinds of insecurities do creep in but it is also very important to maintain a balance in your relationship. If your guy is simply talking on a casual basis, there should be no harm in you feeling bad about it. Your focus should be on strengthening yourself as a person. If you know yourself as an individual and are confident about the qualities that define you, you’ll never feel in secured or jealous of anyone.

So from now on, make a conscious effort to take a pause and dwell on what makes the real you, strengthen yourself and you’ll never go off track.

As girls and as women as well, the female genre (at least most of us)have always dreamt of a perfect mate in our lives, who’ll understand our needs even before we speak, remove our inhibitions and bring out the best in us will his love and nurturing. We all dreamt of this man who’ll match our inner image of a woman and will make us proud to be their partner. Does this thing really exist? Can we really find a perfect partner? Let’s find out!

Where most of us force ourselves to believe that there is someone made for us and that we find him one day, some think that bearing this kind of a thing in mind is only an act of defense, preventing a real life person from winning our heart. I have dwelled in this kind of situation myself and have also spoken to numerous women about their take on it. What I have realized can’t be put into one affirmative or disapproving statement.

Actually the fact of the matter is the yearning for a perfect mate manifests itself differently in different women and has myriad consequences in a woman’s life. Some realize what they’re feeling and do get a man of their dreams. Others are entirely unconscious of what is going on inside and eventually think that it is rat race that’ll probably never end.

I spoke to a lady who said that she was seeking perfection when she came across an extraordinarily handsome guy with the best of everything and she thought life’s been more than lucky to her. She thought she has instantly fallen in love with him (where it was actually a crush) but the emotion died soon because gradually he had started getting on to her nerves. Loving him for his physical aspects seemed to be a very superficial thing then and from that time on, she has never been really attracted to someone just because of one’s looks.

Where this is an instance of falling victim to one’s false perceptions, the reality is slightly ironical. One of the most important aspects of waiting for the perfect lover is the belief that the person will always stay just the same. Based upon a specific image, rather than the reality, we believe that our man can never be touched by the ravages of time. But when we seek an image, rather than reality, things inevitably fall apart. So the idea here is to have firm conviction of one self and be open about the guy’s real persona.

This is because only a strong sense of self, based on inner values and self respect will permit the woman to create a solid relationship that will last through time and make it fuller and richer.

Some of us might agree while many of us won’t really want to acknowledge the fact that we feel jealous quite often. However, there is no harm in acknowledging it is only human to feel jealous and it is just like any other emotion we feel. The biggest drawback in this emotion is that it great greatly hamper your self growth if you go a bit too far with it. Hence we must strictly work on it lest; we might get engulfed by it.

Let me first talk about the harm jealously can cause us. The foremost thing is it greatly lowers our self esteem. Yes, we feel jealous because we think someone else is capable of getting more attention than us or may be has better clothes than we do or is more successful than we are. These things often affect women and hence we end up thinking all the negative things possible for the person. Alright tell me one thing – can you ever feel happy in your heart if you have negative thoughts about someone within you? Even if you justify your hatred for someone, it is still not going to make you feel happy at any cost.  And before this feeling swells up to take a large magnitude, it is best to stop it right there.

But the fact of the matter is bringing down your jealousy and getting rid of it for good takes time. After all the stronger the roots, the greater will be the effort to uproot it. All the more, if your jealousy is coming from a different area such as your competitive nature towards other women, then it will be more difficult for you overcome it. This is because that the other woman is more successful than you is a fact and you just don’t understand how to ignore it. Well, there is a better way to deal with it and stop this feeling entirely from coming to you. Here’s how!
The best way to fight this feeling off is to work upon to improve your own self-health and lifestyle in the best way you can. Do things you feel will boost your self-confidence. If you feel jealous of the great shape another woman has, then you should focus on yourself rather than her success. If you focus on finding ways to satisfy yourself physically as well as mentally, you’ll never feel jealous of any woman in any aspect ever again in your life.

However if the reason has something to do with your flirtatious partner, then the best thing to do is have a serious conversation with him about it. There is no need to be afraid or hesitant or think it is so stupid for you to feel the way you do. You have absolute right to express yourself and your partner ought to know what is that about him that is not keeping you in right spirits. If he truly cares about you, he will work on ways to prevent you from experiencing such emotions. If he still continues with it, I’m sorry to say he’s not the right person for you.

So from now on, make a conscious appointment with you to avoid yourself from falling into this web of emotion. A happy heart will never fall victim to emotions like jealousy!