The first few months of married life are next to heaven but the charm starts experiencing lows after a year or few with personal and professional responsibilities eating up the once-blooming romance and sexual life.

Before we read any further, it is important for us to note sex is an important part of a married life and private encounters with closed doors between the couple are best promoted by each one of them. One of the couple may have a greater desire to have sex more often than normal, while the other one may face less of inclination but the secret of satisfying married sexual life is all about equilibrium.

For some women, seducing their man is not an easy task by any standards. This is one of the biggest reasons why sex life often gets disturbed after marriage. Women can play a big role in reinventing sexual life after marriage to make sure that the charm and excitement factors are always there. Putting on sexiest lingerie is often the easiest way to bring down those pants in a hurry.

If you have been struck with boredom, it is suggested that you try new sex positions. Changing the place of sex or playing of sensual music can be two things that can surely help in reviving those hard-hitting encounters adored by both of you. You can even try touching your man when you think that he needs the best of you. After all, togetherness was what brought you closer and togetherness will be what will make you close forever

Believe it or not, most young women worldwide face the agony of an outright attack on their fertility if the ‘good news’ is not announced by them within 2-3 years after the marriage. This ‘attack’ comes, commonly, from older relatives who begin to cast anxious looks and try every single way in the “book of obvious hints” to make this felt, which is often disgusting to say the least.

One of the biggest reasons why couples delay pregnancy is financial or career standings. The world may want you to bring a new life to this world, but only the two of you know what the true reason for delay is and you just cannot satisfy the world at the cost of your life. However, things may start go ugly if it is discovered that the possibility of having children is bleak or absent. In 99 percent of the cases (if not 100), the woman is blamed though it may be the other way around. These are the times when sexual activities suddenly appear to be mechanical or unsatisfying, especially for the woman.

It is recommended that professional counseling must be sought-after on an immediate basis by the couples before feelings of suspicion, intolerance, quarrels, and misunderstanding make their way into the relationship. It is important for both the partners to understand that fertility is something that is beyond control and should therefore not be condemned. The news of infertility may break heart but it should not be enough to break the relationship at any cost.

If you and your spouse have been medically tested and the medical ruling is against you, the world is still very much yours and you can give a new meaning to life by opting for adoption. You will be surprised to know that adoption is gaining popularity with every passing time and you should feel privileged to give “life” and your name to a deprived child rather than blaming the destiny. If you have been experiencing mood swings or attitude problems due to problems in conceiving, it is highly suggested that you take some quality time to develop new interests - dramatics, sports, music, painting, or social groups. This will relieve the tension and you will be in a better frame of mind to make an informed decision.

Last but surely not the least the world including both of you will not end just because you do not have children. You must respect your partner and vice-versa and the world can be beautiful even with the two of you; it is just how you perceive things coming your way. After all, there is more than just motherhood for you to experience.

In the first part of this two-part series on sex during pregnancy, we read about is it normal to have libido changes or what not to do during pregnancy. In this part, we will be reading as to when sex during pregnancy may NOT be safe, can sex harm the baby, and what are the safe positions for sex during pregnancy.

What are the safe positions?

Medically, there is no sex position that can be termed to be safe completely. However, it is recommended to avoid the missionary position; the spoon position can be a good option. Women on top and side lying sex with the knees pulled up can be good sex positions.

Can sex harm the baby?

Sex during pregnancy does not harm your baby in a direct manner as the baby is completely protected by the thin-walled bag known as amniotic sac (that holds the fetus and surrounding fluid) and strong muscles of the uterus. The fact that the penis doesn’t come into any contact with the fetus means that there is no risk by sex. But this practice holds good only for low-risk categories of expectant mothers.

When sex during pregnancy may NOT be safe?

Sex during pregnancy is not recommended if you had a past history of miscarriage or if your partner has a tendency to blow air into your vagina during oral sex. It is never recommended to have sex with a person who has a history or presently suffering from sexually transmitted disease (STD), such as herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, or HIV.

All in all, it is important for you and your partner to love each other but love is not only about sex. There are many things such as kissing, caressing, and holding each other that will do no harm