**A Pillow
A well-placed pillow can help you get into new-fangled positions and add sexy diversity to old favorites. Attempt tucking a pillow under your butt in missionary position, says Mabel Iam, author of Sex and the Perfect Lover. Or put it between your legs whilst spooning. Of course, it also facilitates the traditional way: below your head.

** A Vibrator
The question isn’t why receiving a vibrator; it’s why not? You can make use of one on your own to explore what feels good, or among your partner to add a new length to sex together. Women who use vibrators report higher levels of sexual pleasure with their partners, increased libido, and easier orgasms, according to a research by REDBOOK Love Network expert Laura Berman, Ph.D. If you’re a new to it, try a tactful vibrator like the LAYAspot. “It fits in the palm of your hand, and it also easily fits between you and your partner for stimulus during intercourse,” says sex expert Emma Taylor (a.k.a. Em). Lo (Lorelei Sharkey), Em’s writing colleague, suggests the Fukuoku 9000, which suits onto his (or your) finger.

** A Lube You Love
Not only does lube make the whole thing glide more smoothly, it can also assist make sex last longer (because you won’t arid out) and make it easier to try unusual positions. To find one, mock-up as many as you can, says sexologist Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., writer of Prime: “It’s a very delicate thing, and the fun is in discovering one that you love and your body loves.” Water-based lubes (similar to Pink Water) are most excellent if you’re worried about allergies, while silicone-based varieties end longer. Blend things up with formulas that tingle or warm. You can even find natural and natural lubricants. To read user review of all these lubes — and more! — as well as buy them online.

** Just-for-fun Toys
Whether they’re domestic (feather tickler, whipped ointment) or not so tame (fluffy cuffs, whips), teasing props add excitement to the mix. To see what tickles your imagination, take a field tour to an adult shop, or browse an online retailer.

** An immense Sex Book
“When it comes to sexual category, you just can’t identify too much,” says Iam. That’s why it helps to have a sex guidebook that covers the full gamut, from structure to vibrators. “