Being single is something everyone wishes after they are engaged. On a more serious note, I feel one should never feel the need of getting engaged, rather there us a time for everything. And it will happen when there would be the right time for it to happen. Be grateful for what you have. After the grieving period, focus on what you do have for example, good health and a good support system of family and friends.

Don’t be afraid to invest yourself in deep relationships with other people. You don’t have to be dating somebody to have an intimate and fulfilling relationship with them. Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable sometimes.

You should be able to decide for yourself if there are aspects of your life or your personality that you would like to change and do it. You are your best evaluator. You don’t need to listen to those people who tell you that you are single because you are too “picky”, too fat, or too old to meet someone else.

HERE ARE SOME ADVANTAGES

1.   Ignore the toxic people in your life. It is easy to recognize them. Their negative words of fear and discouragement sap your energy.

2.   Think about all the things you can do because you are now single. You could take off and go traveling without discussing it with somebody else. You can watch TV all day without being called lazy. You don’t actually have to do these things but, sometimes, just the knowledge that you could is enough to make you feel great.

3.  Invest in yourself. Save some money and get a professional massage. Get a manicure and pedicure…. anything that nurtures your body and lifts your spirit.

4. You can do whatever you darn well please.

5. Shave your legs and the razor is never dull from his face.

6.  Not only is your razor not dull, who needs to shave at all now?

7. You can leave bra and other unmentionables in view

8. You can slump around the house in any old thing.

9. You don’t having to think about birth control, calendars or ovulation10.You can go out and flirt as much as your heart desires, without a worry in the world.

10. You can have male friends without having to defend yourself and explain that nothing else is going on.

11. You can finally see all the good videos — the romantic, cheesy films. (Get some ideas girly videos in our Chick Flicks area.)

12.  No one grossing out over Tamp ax wrappers being anywhere in the house.

13.  You don’t have to wear G-string panties unless you want to wear them.

14.  You can have sexual gratification at any time, not just when the sports games are over

15.  You don’t have to deal with anyone’s grumpy, moody personalities

16.  You can get the juice/cheese/toilet paper/videos/CDs/take-out that you want.

17.  You can spend as much time as you want with your family and nobody’s lip will drag the ground

18.  You don’t have to worry if he will or won’t call

19.  No more arguments about things you can’t explain

20.  You can have a clean bathroom with the toilet seat where you want it.

21.  Not only are your dinners free when you go out on those first dates, but they take you out to nice places.”

Now that you are single, you will discover that there are some ignorant friends, family and neighbors who think that being single means you are desperate and stupid. Don’t be offended. Just drop them from your close circle.