You’ve met the man of your dreams. The man you want to spend the rest of your life with. You know he’s the nicest guy you’ve ever known. At this point you are wondering, just how much about my past do I need to reveal to this man?

In the best of all possible worlds, we can tell each other anything and everything. But the dilemma is whether to tell him all or not.

No way in the world should you ever tell your future husband your dark secrets. Are you totally insane? Do you want him to be bringing these secrets up for the duration of your time together? The answer to that is no. I’m telling you straight up.

Everyone who has not been with the same person from the time you were young will have some type of past. So you have a past that you may not be proud of. And sure if you tell him in the beginning of your relationship it will all be great and he will be supportive for you. Then you will feel so good about yourself for telling him.

And believe me you will both forget about it one day. I would advise not to tell your husband if you know that your dark secrets will hurt his feeling. Not telling is not trying to be dishonest but to avoid from having misunderstanding between husband and wife.

I believe that a woman doesn’t need to tell her future husband her darkest secrets. Her secrets are hers alone what she has in her closet is her business as long as it’s not hurting her future husband in the process he doesn’t need to know. Not knowing is almost always better than knowing. The women could’ve had an old relationship that she doesn’t want her future husband to know about. Things like that are private and should be kept to yourself unless you want people to know. Relationships are very important when coming to the topic of marriage it’s really important to be honest about the things that need to be told.

If your husband asks you a personal question, tell him you don’t feel like sharing the past.

Don’t lie because one lie turns into two and so on and so fort. Women and Men are very complex and different creatures and Women will want to share most things men would never share. Do you believe that a man would tell his future wife that he had slept with all these women before you? Would you want to know about his relationships before you it’s a two way street. In conclusion I think that be honest, but it is healthy to keep things to your self. Don’t spill all the beans. If you are going to keep secrets away from your partner be truthful about it. It’s really hard to be honest and secretive.

Some secrets are worth telling as a way of strengthening the relationship, but others are the kind that should be drawn out in time as long as they aren’t ones that have the potential of ruining the relationship. at the same time but life isn’t supposed to be easy.

Tags :men, Relationship, trust, truth, women

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One Response to “DON’T TELL HIM YOUR DARK SECRETS”

1. pentupentropy Says:
   Wed, Oct 01, 2008 at 7:37 am

   This is absolute crap. You’re relationships must suck if you’ve never found anyone who you trust enough to share anything and everything with. You don’t have to volunteer information, but you should be able to share if it comes up. We have ALL done things we weren’t proud of. There are a few women from my freshman year in college to whom I would still apologize today if I could.
   My wife is not a person I CAN share everything with, she’s the only one I DO share everything with. And I trust her enough not to throw it in my face later on out of spite. If you don’t have someone you feel like this about, you don’t have a good mate. You need to dump them, get some self respect and then find someone who will respect you as much as you do.

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