Entries RSSEmotional Intelligence and dating!
You must be wondering as to what has being intelligent in any way has to do with dating? Let me tell you how it is important!
Suppose you have finally found someone interesting enough on net and you guys have started spending a good amount of time talking to each other. You both then switch on to the phone and you feel all the better I knowing him this way. He sounds good, seems to have a decent sense of things and you also think that he is comparatively more sensitive than other men you’ve dated. You finally feel that this could be the beginning of something real in your life and you feel elated anticipating a date with this person. The person feels the same and thus you guys decide to meet one day after work. A perfect plan for a perfect date!
You fix a nice coffee house for the venue. You also spend some extra bucks to look your best that day. You are slightly nervous but feeling extremely positive about it.
Against your anticipation, you get late by a good 30 minutes because of heavy traffic and this makes you feel awful and rushed. When you finally face each other, you can easily sense that he is a bit annoyed with you. You get a bit restless due to this and simply forget to give a friendly shake or warm hug before sitting down. You seemed to get so moved by being late, that you start giving explanations to him about the bad traffic, the awful workload and your difficult boss amidst apologizing again and again for being late.
In some you see that he has started looking at his watch and within next 30 minutes he tells you that he has to meet someone for some important work and leaves.
So did it really come out the way you anticipated it? Well, certainly not, I’m sure! But could you make out what went wrong and where! No, you needn’t blame the traffic or your work in anyway.
Let me tell what you could have done!
In such situations, if you are disturbed by something mentally before meeting your date, it is important to gather yourself and collect your thoughts before facing him. Talk to yourself or take a few deep breaths so that you calm down. Even if he seems a bit annoyed when you meet him, your personality should be such that your assurance and warmth as a person just leaves him awe of you. Giving a genuine smile and a warm hug would have completely distracted him and within no time, your conversation would have hit the pleasant grounds!
This my dear, calls for having higher levels of self awareness and the assurance to take charge of things and correcting yourself before the situation attacks you. THIS is what is called being emotionally intelligent.
So the nest time, you decide to meet your date for the first time, you know what to do ad how! Wish you great success!
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