You are in love with a guy who’s given you the best of times, has been immensely caring and given you more than you could ever ask for. Everything is sailing fine until one day the inevitable happens and you find yourself separated from him. You world comes down to a closure. You just can’t fathom what has happened and why. You feel distressed to the core, knowing nothing what to do.

Months pass by but that calls for no change within you. You are still a prisoner of your past. Every moment of every day you remind yourself of the pain and suffering you went through when you broke apart and then of the good times you’ve had. You are sure that no one else can ever bring you those happy times or perhaps you fear that everyone will be hopelessly flawed, because that is just the way all relationships are, especially for you.

You know this is the sad story of most of us around. But the shackles have to be broken sooner or later, lest you’ll see yourself swinging in this vicious circle repeatedly.

So how do you change this negative thought process of yours? The most important thing is to examine what your beliefs are and try to connect them with at least one past experience you’ve had. You may also include in it, your any childhood experience with your relationship of your parents, grandparents, and any other adults you were exposed to at that time. What was your general impression of those bonds? What were your conclusions about those relationships? Do those perceptions hold any connection with any relationships you have had while dating with men?

You’ll see that you’ve come up with some really interesting and useful conclusions by the end of it all. My reason of asking you to do so is all the experiences you’ve had have added up in your mind to develop a perception of how relationships generally fare. Hence that makes you to act in a specific way whenever you confront such a situation.

So now that you know the cause behind your negative pattern, you must make a conscious choice to avoid those thoughts from coming to you when you date someone. Decide to be open and to see every new person and unique experiences brought by him in positive earnest. Just be yourself and go with the flow without thinking much!

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