We feel blessed when we find our special someone. Cloud nine becomes the ultimate destination. But as we move on we find the lack of fun and sex in our life it all results in taking away all the glory of love. Today we find the booming number of psychologists because of the increasing number of people seeking help with their relationships because – basically – they are having very little sex or none at all.

The reasons
There are usually attractive, normal people who just can’t seem to get it together. And the usual reasons for this unhappy state of affairs include:

Stress due to work
Long working hours for one or both partners
Daily commuting
Feeling that life is completely out of balance
Resentment in the relationship
Fatigue

Unfortunately, technology is one curse which has resulted in ruining the sex life. Married couples are not the only ones being affected by the home invasion of wireless technology. Ask any upwardly mobile single and they’ll tell you that they are often too busy getting ahead in the boardroom to get busy in their bedroom.

Sometimes such couples try and arrange an appointment in the hope that things can be put right. It can actually be termed as a crazy state of affairs. But it can be solved if only they take being together as a top priority.

So, here are some hints and tips to help you to do just that.

Stop thinking and start working
Run your mind back to those miraculous days at the beginning of your relationship. Remember how you used to wander round in a cloud of desire when you knew you were going to meet up that evening? Well, these things build-up for terrific sex.

So think ‘occasion’. Think ‘naughtiness’. And - most of all - think ‘time and space’.

Try to have sex not during the usual time; rather try to make it different simply by arranging it at a time which is new to you for having it. So, try and devote yourself to your partner.

Decide to see a film right after work. But even if you’re both employed in the same office, get ready separately and make your own way to the cinema so you can engineer a romantic meeting in the ticket queue. Do enjoy the film - but remember that the object of this exercise is to enjoy each other more. So, hold hands and kiss and snuggle up together and have fun.

Don’t give up

Think sexy thoughts. Thinking about sex is one of the most powerful ways to psych your self up for it.Couples who not only work, but who are parents too, have double the problems when it comes to romance. But this is a period in your life when you really need all the close and loving contact you can get.

Mutual connection
Feeling connected to your partner is very important as it plays a large part in the desire for physical intimacy. To create a stronger bond an honest communication about how you feel and what you need sexually helps you create the environment and leads to sexual intimacy.

If you keep being together as your top priority you will soon find out the solution to all tour relationship problems. Put efforts to make tour partner feel special and see the change in your life.

We have often heard of love causing wars and ruining civilizations, in ancient times. Well, the present day culture is not very far from the fury this emotion arouses in us, in a different context though. When we women are left with an entire house hold, a lousy job and crying babies to take care of, the most common aftermath is disgust towards our partner for not sharing the onus of the relationship with us. If this is so, its time to unlearn some lessons of the past and start anew.

As we go through in a relationship, we change. And so does our partner. A key factor here is to stay open to accepting this change because resisting it won’t help us to grow from it. Once into a relationship, everything else in a women’s life tends to take a back seat. But women today are more open, seeking and articulate. They can still happily sacrifice their comfort for their partner only if they get consistently what they crave for – LOVE.

Relationships today are more complex. As individuals, we may take ourselves for granted but once we hold hands with somebody, it is imperative to learn who we are and who our partner is i.e. knowing oneself not just physically and mentally as a lover is not all. It becomes our responsibility to know our partner as an individual, his tastes, his likes and dislikes, his understanding of things and reaction towards certain issues.

We often think that we have learnt everything from our past. But here you have the present and the future to look upto. Thus to make our present brighter than the past, we have to invest our energies in learning about our partner. And love makes this experience all the more wonderful. When we frequently confront difference of opinion with our beloved, we think that perhaps we made a wrong choice. But for those who think that abiding my love is a cake walk, it isn’t.

Knowing your partner certainly requires a lot of patience and time but once you know how truly is, handling conflicts related to money, marital doubts and even anger becomes very easy. Likewise, don’t expect your beloved to know you just because he is in love with you. Knowing a person takes time but it greatly helps in decision making, building respect and self-esteem, understanding and supporting your partner and keeping romance alive.

Infact just being aware that there is so much to learn is powerful. Taking action towards it will help you to reap the fruit. So what are you waiting for? Remember, love always wins…all you need to do is have faith!