It’s the dream of every woman to get her Mr. Right-exactly the way she wants him to be. Every girl makes her own list of qualities she would want her man to have. She reveals all this over a very interesting discussion with her girlfriends during coffee hours with laughter on her lips and a twinkle in her eyes lost in the thoughts of her ideal man. Once you make your list you start comparing your male counterparts or that cute guy you spotted around you with your ideal match. If you are lucky you get exactly the guy you wanted.

But at times the twist comes when you see yourself falling for a guy who is not so close to the big list of qualities you announced to your girlfriends. He might even have some habits you generally dislike people for! But the truth is- you are falling for him irrespective of all that! It might get a bit disturbing and confusing at times if given a thought. Here is when the word compromise comes into play! If you want things to work out smoothly, you have to compromise and reassure yourself at many points, then you will see your priorities changing gradually. Then you may even think, “maybe I expected too much” or “perhaps god chose him to be my life partner”. It can come both ways-positive and negative but overall whatever happens happens for a reason.

I stated this line because if you got exactly the same guy u wanted then the initial spark might be good but with time boredom may come into play. Just imagine your guy doing exactly the same thing every time you knew he would! The words surprise and thrill lose their value in such a relationship! And without surprises and uncertainty, no relation can last long no matter how much the two of you resemble each other.

Actually its not about having the same interests and qualities that bind you together, the connection is perfect when both of you compliment each other irrespective of all flaws- after all nothing is perfect unless you start seeing it that way. It’s all about your point of view as to how you perceive things to be. You might find yourself laughing at jokes with him you frowned at sometime back. After all it’s a very popular line said by every smart and single girl- “I am not an easy catch, no one can impress me that easily”! But believe it or not, love does change you in a way. Make the change beautiful by enjoying every moment of it and not cribbing as to what quality your mate doesn’t have. If you are meant to be together then things will work out and if not, then world is a huge place and you have numerous options to try your hand on!

Dating in the right way and using the right words during your date is quite a hot topic among all singles looking for their right mate. As for dating men some dos and don’ts are important to be kept in mind. The first rule to attract a man towards you is to make him realize that you are least interested in whatever point he has to make in anything around you. Listen to what he has to say about himself with a smile but don’t tell him very detail about yourself at one go. Move cautiously and keep some of the interesting piece to be said later on. Hence be uninterested and mysterious and that draws the man towards you all the more as for him you will be a tough nut to crack. If you react the same way he expects you to then he knows he will get you easily and he won’t really run after you. Make him take a good run and fall for you eventually.

So when you go for a date, dress right, not much revealing nor conservative, dress trendy and smart. Every time he tries to make an eye contact, give an intense look with a twitched smile and take your eyes off his. Don’t glance at him for a long time, let him do that! Holding your glance for a longer time might hint him that you are interested to make him in interested in you. Never make him realize that, it will spoil the well settled game! Order the right things. If he seems to be a nice guy, go with his choice but if he likes to brag and is sarcastic about your choices, you carry on the same sarcasm with him and play smart.

Don’t get much intimate in the first date. A small peck on the cheek and a quick hug while saying goodbye will make it enough for the evening. And be very comfortable about the way you look and talk, don’t be conscious as men admire confident ladies with a charming attitude!

As for exchanging numbers, let him do the effort of taking it and making the first call. You make a thought about the second round! If he is a fun loving guy, don’t talk much about work during your dates, make the conversation fun filled and entertaining. But if it’s a serious guy you have your eyes on then make it the other way round!

Make things gradual and smooth and don’t loose patience if you want the guy to be totally in your traps! Act right and get right ladies!

When you meet a guy for the first time what interests you in him the most? It’s perhaps his physical appearance that does the initial magic in your heart towards him. Like it’s said, “the first impression is the last impression”, the initial impression about a person is made by looks and personality. But with time there are several things that bring a person closer to you. Apart from physical appearance, intellectual and emotional attraction is very important for any relationship to work in the long run.

Who doesn’t like a charming face but talking of intellectual and emotional attractions, are we more attracted towards people whom we are similar to, or those from whom we are different? Its human nature to crave for things that one doesn’t have and not care about things one knows they posses. So it’s a more lavish thought to have a partner who is perfect i.e. who is a master of the things you lack in life and similarly it’s a pleasure to have qualities you feel your partner lacks!

A woman would always want her perfect man to be everything she wants and everything she needs and be everything from inside she wished she could be. Like it’s said about couples totally opposite in nature “even though they are different, they compliment each other in many ways”. In other words it’s not the difference in qualities but the complimentary nature that enhances the attraction. Such attractions modify into love pretty soon!

On the contrary, there are some people who prefer partners similar to them. Eventhough the general rule of the society is attraction of the similar; it at times becomes crucial from career point of view. Having a partner who is interested in the same field as you are and competing with him everyday when you actually look for support is not such a good feeling. Having someone who has a different lifestyle at times opens doors for a wider social circle and a life full of variety. But in such cases the point to be kept in mind is that both people should have understanding amongst each other. If people have different interests, then it becomes very important for them to respect each other’s opinion.

For opposites to click in a positive way they should have a comfortable level of acceptance and both should have one thing in common i.e. mentality. The rest of the qualities may be different.

So ladies, the next time you look for your satisfactory potential partner, try moving your eyes towards the opposite lot as well because you never know the man who is different from you may complete your precious life!