Dating has always been a bit confusing among women and the present trend of online dating has made matters all the more complicated. Many questions strike the female minds as to how to act on the first meeting, what to say and what to wear. Online dating is at its peak in the recent days when women are becoming more bold to take up the risk of meeting up strangers they merely know. So its very essential to know some basic facts so that the meeting doesn’t become a disaster and may turn out to be fine if not excellent. So ladies its essential to take down some points before you go and make your first impression.

Before the date:

Dos: - Make it a point to exchange photos and if possible a phone number- you would want to know how it will look and sound like!

Don’ts: - Make sure you look nice, flattering and decent in the photograph. Photos with revealing outfits may give wrong indications to the man.

During the first date:

Dos: -
• Provide some basic details about yourself. Share just short and sufficient information about yourself that your date will be itching to learn more!

• Stick to positive and general topics during the conversation like food, movies, music etc.

• If you have a special talent then show it off. Like try bowling or snooker if you are good at it and flatter the man.

Don’ts: -
• Don’t go overboard revealing unnecessary information about yourself like no one needs to know the name of your neighbour’s dog or your favourite childhood outfit.

• Don’t brag about something you are not good at. If tested, you might make a fool out of yourself. Stay simple and honest.

After the date

Do’s: -
• Do give him your number and ask him to make the first call. Some attitude is important initially to make the guy fall for you further.

Don’ts: -
• Don’t try to kiss him or let him kiss you on the lips on the first date. A peck on the cheek and a goodbye hug will do it all. Make it cute and nice.

If things don’t work out and you want to end the relationship: -

Do’s: -
• Do bow out gracefully and avoid doing the slow fade.

• Do mention concluding lines like its not that he is a bad guy but things can’t just work out. Don’t end it with a steaming and abusive fight.

Don’ts: -
• Don’t break up over the internet even if you met that way. Do break up in person.

Online dating may sound a bit scary and confusing initially but if given a thought its not so tough if taken the right moves. Act and dress right and refer to the above points, then the date will surely shape out the way you want it to.

A perfect marriage is the one, which promises life long commitment by two people towards each other. For this the love should remain. Love is a feeling based on strong foundation, honesty and care. The moment this love starts fading in marriage, and mistrust builds in, it initiates the possibility of an extra marital affair. Yes it signifies the end of a happy marriage and questions the saying “marriages are made in heaven”. In the court of marriage, extra marital affairs are considered to be illegal.

Till date surprisingly the maximum number of people having an affair outside marriage are the one’s who opted for love marriages! Or maybe they were never actually in love at all!

It’s mainly because of dissatisfaction of a person from his/her spouse emotionally or physically, which makes their eyes wander here and there for that perfect affair they couldn’t have. And at times some people just do so for the thrill of it or perhaps it’s in their nature of not being loyal towards anyone. Many a times it’s the housewife unhappy with her extra busy husband who doesn’t care to spend time with his lonely wife left isolated with caretakers and servants of the house. In such a case it’s the crave for companionship and for the physical satisfaction that the housewife looks for another man who can satisfy her needs her husband never tried to.

Or it can also be a frustrated husband unhappy with his difficult wife who does nothing apart from throwing taunts and shelling his money away and doesn’t bother to be his emotional support in his hard times. Another case can be of two busy people who are more into their careers than they are into each other. Such are the ones who get married for the heck of it due to either society, peer pressure or parental pressure. They just want a “married” tag and produce children to complete the so called “happy family” so that the society looks up to them of being perfect. Such people on the other hand are found having relationships with their colleagues or maybe their spouse’s friend.

Another category of people can be the one’s who couldn’t get married to the person of their choice, who, according to then was the perfect partner.

The reason can be anything and the person can be anyone.

The couples don’t let each other know about it obviously but somehow it may reflect in their attitude as to what they are up to.

It can be your man who gets you flowery gifts which may not be to make you happy, but, to hide his guilt of being disloyal towards you.

Whatever the truth be but extra marital affairs has been the key to end marriages with divorce. The best way is to marry the man who understands and cares for you as, the person who loves you may not understand you in the long run and might leave you, but the one who understands will automatically love you and you will experience a happy married life.

It has been a very popular topic amongst women as to judge what a guy thinks when he says something to a girl to win her heart. Men say its very difficult to figure out what a woman thinks or plans but the real picture is the other way round when it comes to relationships.

The question that clicks the mind Does he really mean what he says or is it just for fun? Leaving aside all the serious relationships and commitments we appreciate, guys, in their young age mostly look for the “fun” part.

It’s very exciting for him to compete with his friends as to who receives maximum attention from the woman lot and is the perfect ladies man! He bets on the girl-count in his life in order to stand out and be the smartest as that’s what smart according to him!

For such reasons he mostly looks for flings more than committed affairs. Men are never satisfied, be it money, success and obviously women! His ideology is “why should I stick to one when I can have many and have fun” At youth he justifies himself by saying that “I am just playing my age” and at work he plays the perfect gentleman.

Its normal for a girl to trust the guy she always had feelings for. So if her dream date approaches her with a twinkle in his eye she naturally gets carried away by every word he says.

The rule is if you really want the guy to genuinely start liking you never hint him about your true feelings because once he feels the girl is falling for him, his game starts and he won’t move back without winning! After all its male ego!

The real picture becomes more clear after breakups happen. The ones mostly effected are the ladies while the men hardly care. It’s in a nature of a man not to care about the woman he knows is under his control. So never let him know what you feel instead play mind games to make him feel the way you want him to. If you want him to come after you just don’t bother to while much of your precious time with him. Don’t giggle at minor jokes but flaunt your million dollar smile with those cherry lips at a hilarious one.

So ladies next time your dream hunk approaches you with his heart winning sweet talks, think again before falling into his traps. He might just be there to have another ball of his life and flirt with you as..

“JUST BECAUSE HE FLIRTS DOESN’T MEAN HE IS INTERESTED”