Mon, February 23, 2009 9:41 am By sarah
For any relation to flourish, it has to be nurtured with love, understanding and trust. But the fragile bond of love is broken if one is less dedicated to the relationship. This holds true when you love your boyfriend more than he loves you. You are more sincere and committed towards your relationship and hence prone to feel the depth of misery when you realize that you might be loosing him.
However, there is still time to salvage your relationship and woo him back. A little dose of retrospection, commitment and communication can do wonders to your fading relationship and give it a new lease of life.
So where do you start once you have realized that he doesn’t love you anymore. Here are a few steps that will help you pave your way to get him back.
Retrospect on your relationship: The initial and the most important step for you is to apprehend why the relationship broke in the first place. Think about what went wrong. What were the reasons for its deteriorating? If the reasons were related to abuse-physical or mental or both then think long and hard before setting up your mind to save this relationship.
Be ready to commit: Every relationship demands commitment and more so in your case since the foundation has gone weak. Be ready to devout time and energy to the relationship. But that certainly doesn’t mean that you start neglecting yourself. In fact go in for a make over and try to woo your boyfriend back. Socialize with your friends and try to keep yourself happy.
Communicate: Invite and encourage him to talk to you. Be honest and open about your feelings. Ask if what went wrong was somehow related to what you’ve been doing. Your ex may have a different viewpoint!
Be yourself: remember your boyfriend was in love with you once because you were unique, you were YOU. Don’t loose your identity and try to be someone you are not. It will only make matters worse. Be the same person he fell in love with.
Stop clinging: It may sound weird but believe me it helps. Stop clinging and don’t sound desperate to get back. Give him a breather and let him also contemplate on the relationship. He will call you as and when he is ready.
It is easy to break off a relationship. But it is an uphill task to mend it and move forward- to forgive and forget. However, remember that the task may be difficult but not impossible if you are ready to work on it. With the above mentioned steps you have bright chances of winning your ex back.