Getting into a relationship is an easy thing but maintaining it and keeping the charm forever is a tedious task. This is the reason why more than 60 percent of all marriages fall for one reason or another. If you actually think about the statement, commitment would surely be scary for you.

The fact is that relationships, whether in a married or an unmarried stage, are hard. Moreover, things do not always go perfectly and fights do happen between even the happiest of all couples.

One of the best things that you can do to your married life is make a decision to select to love the mate rather than focusing on the warm feelings that fade with passing times. Take your marriage as a car. You selected the best make and model and believed that it was the best for you. After a few months or years, you realize that you could have done better with a better car.

However, it is now too late and you decide to keep the car and make it work like a new car. Things are same in a marriage, not every marriage is perfect, and there are hurdles to overcome before almost all couples. However, most couples forget to remember that they have already made a decision.

In the second and last part of this two-part series, we will be accessing great tips on how to save a marriage and rebuild the lost love so that life can be made better again.

For any relation to flourish, it has to be nurtured with love, understanding and trust. But the fragile bond of love is broken if one is less dedicated to the relationship. This holds true when you love your boyfriend more than he loves you. You are more sincere and committed towards your relationship and hence prone to feel the depth of misery when you realize that you might be loosing him.

However, there is still time to salvage your relationship and woo him back. A little dose of retrospection, commitment and communication can do wonders to your fading relationship and give it a new lease of life.

So where do you start once you have realized that he doesn’t love you anymore. Here are a few steps that will help you pave your way to get him back.

Step 1
Retrospect on your relationship: The initial and the most important step for you is to apprehend why the relationship broke in the first place. Think about what went wrong. What were the reasons for its deteriorating? If the reasons were related to abuse-physical or mental or both then think long and hard before setting up your mind to save this relationship.

Step 2
Be ready to commit: Every relationship demands commitment and more so in your case since the foundation has gone weak. Be ready to devout time and energy to the relationship. But that certainly doesn’t mean that you start neglecting yourself. In fact go in for a make over and try to woo your boyfriend back. Socialize with your friends and try to keep yourself happy.

Step 3
Communicate: Invite and encourage him to talk to you. Be honest and open about your feelings. Ask if what went wrong was somehow related to what you’ve been doing. Your ex may have a different viewpoint!

Step 4
Be yourself: remember your boyfriend was in love with you once because you were unique, you were YOU. Don’t loose your identity and try to be someone you are not. It will only make matters worse. Be the same person he fell in love with.

Step 5
Stop clinging: It may sound weird but believe me it helps. Stop clinging and don’t sound desperate to get back. Give him a breather and let him also contemplate on the relationship. He will call you as and when he is ready.

It is easy to break off a relationship. But it is an uphill task to mend it and move forward- to forgive and forget. However, remember that the task may be difficult but not impossible if you are ready to work on it. With the above mentioned steps you have bright chances of winning your ex back.

Commitment has been a very controversial subject. There are many definitions of it but the main idea of commitment is, that one person is completely dedicating themselves to a certain thing, in this case, their mate. There have always been many questions about commitment and how it is involved in a relationship. Questions such as, “is commitment important in a relationship?” Many people have tried to see what a relationship is like with out commitment and that is why that question is so important. There are other important questions, such as, “why is commitment hard for some, but not for others?” In most cases, a woman is more ready for commitment then the man, and this is what brings up the question of why its hard for some but not others.

Another question might ask “what are some reasons a couple breaks up and get divorced?” Now a day in the US, over 50% of marriages fail and a divorce occurs. You have known each other for some time now. You feel that a reasonable level of compatibility exist between you. Your partner has demonstrated the desire, capability, and readiness to enter into a serious relationship with you. And you both feel in love with each other. Congratulations! You are ready to commit to a loving relationship.

You may decide on a legal wedding ceremony or, for the less traditional, a non-legal or private way of formalizing your commitment to each other. Whatever form you select, it is important to understand the true meaning of such commitment.

Your commitment to your mate is not your marriage license, your wedding ceremony, nor your living arrangements. When you commit, you are in fact agreeing to the following:

“After serious consideration and with full responsibility and integrity, I am agreeing to share my life with my partner; to assist in his/her personal growth development and happiness wherever and whenever I can. I also agree to cherish and protect this union with my partner so it can forever flourish and always remains a happy one. I am agreeing to this because I want to, and for no other reason.”

When you look at marriage in this way, it becomes easier to see why a marriage commitment does not end with a ceremony. Instead, it becomes a commitment for two people to strive toward, on a day-to-day basis. The commitment is to ensure the continued growth of each other and the relationship.

I always remember the expression on a young lady’s face when, one morning, she burst into the office where I worked. With excitement, pride, and contentment in her voice, she showed off her engagement ring. She had finally received a marriage proposal from a young man whom we all considered to be one of the most eligible bachelors around. She was the envy of all the women.

I later learned she had confided in close friends that, although she had hoped for a marriage proposal, she had not really expected one. She confessed that she had done all she could to win her fiancé, and that she was glad that it was over now. No, it is not over yet. Too many people see marriage as a point of arrival instead of the beginning of a long journey.

Too many people support the belief that after they have taken the necessary steps to secure a marriage commitment, they can relax in the comfort that their work is done. This kind of thinking can cause complacency, which is one of the killers of love relationships. I am reminded of an old saying: “The same things you did to win your partner are the same things you should do to keep him/her.”

Yes, there are good reasons to celebrate when two people decide to commit to each other in a loving relationship, but remember that this is only the beginning. Celebrate that you have been blessed with the good fortune to find a mate who has met your standards for eligibility, and that you have both fallen in love with each other.