It’s getting harder for Gen-X-ers to settle down. Gen-X-ers are searching for love in an anti-commitment world. Since divorce is such a common thing these days, people are scared to get hitched. Plus, trends like speed and internet dating let us connect with loads of potential partners, so we are always wondering if there is something better out there. As a result when we finally consider settling down, I can feel we are settling.

People have to be more positive about committing.To devote yourself to a steady relationship, fight the urge to think ‘what I am missing out on?’ Instead, learn to focus on what you are gaining. If you dedicate a lot of time to bonding with someone, you have a greater chance of discovering all the awesome things about him.

What might draw a woman to a man in the beginning – he is a blast at parties or both of you love to listen to the same kind of music – isn’t as important in the long run. The real gauge of a lasting relation between two people is having shared values, like prioritizing family.

Women should also follow some dating guidelines.Since men are not mind readers, and they won’t know if you wanted them to call you, or to meet you when you want, you have to speak it to him. Since women are so independent and want different stuff all the time, he probably just has another expectation of what you like. He could assume that if he called you too soon, he’d scare you off. So just tell him what you desire.

If you are dating a guy and you want to know the status then you have to note his gestures.
Today,people have to create their own signs of interest. You should get involved in his life by making an effort to meet his friends and family. If he lets you into these parts of his world, that’s a clear clue that he is thinking long-term. But if you still need more from him, just say to him “I really like you and I don’t want to see other people”. His reaction to this will tell you exactly where you stand.

If new romance hurdles are tripping keep them in mind and think about the brighter prospects of everything. Things do change with time and so are the love related worries. But worries do end one day. We hope you have someone in your life soon.

Do you dislike your partner’s intake of alcohol?? If your persistent complaints are not affecting him, you come to think that marriage will certainly change him. Well, let’s get it right that you have already committed a mistake by thinking so. We all have our cues which our partner may or may not find pleasing enough. But assuming that marriage will help you change the person is only going to cause you disappointment unbound.

Firstly, the only person you can ever change is yourself. Expecting to change your partner just because he is married to you will never undo the plight of women who constantly want their partners to abandon their ill-habits. Addictive behaviors are by large out of one’s control, especially because it calls for personal intervention.

This is so because we still consider ourselves to be individuals, accustomed to living life by our own terms, without any interventions. Consequently we want even our partners to accept our persona in the same vein. We fail to understand that the person is somebody else outside of us, has lived life in a different way and may opine differently on the same issue. So saying that, “ I know its annoying when he goes out to drink with his friend during weekends but once we’re married, he’ll change”, is untrue.

Your mate will change only because he WANTS to change and not because you want him to. Well, people do bring about some changes in themselves once they are in a relation but it succeeds only so long it is natural process.

People rarely change for the better when they are under pressure from someone else, even if its their loved one. In a partnership, you work together to mutually create a new relationship. It is a sharing process. Yes, it may have its bitter moments but as long as you both are working together for each other’s betterment, you will certainly succeed.

Strong relationship does call for commitment asking for compromise, change and growth but it does not mean giving into the unreasonable demands of your partner.

Love, I believe is the most simple and at the same time most complex of human emotions. One moment you are ecstatically and gloriously cocooned in warm glow of love and in the next moment you find yourself in the pits of darkened misery.

Feeling of insecurity and doubts creeping into your mind can take a toll on your relationship. But how do you know for sure that he has stopped loving you and has given up on the relationship? Well, if you ask me, then look for the answers to these questions.

Does he spend quality time with you?
If he really loves you, he will always try and find time for you no matter how busy he is. The urgency to see you and be in your company will compel him to find ways and means to get in touch with you. The boundaries of his personal priorities will become hazy. He will always be around when you need him the most. If he is finding excuses to be away or spending his nights out with his male friends, he is looking for ways to get back his freedom.

Does he respect you?
Respect is the very core on which rests the success of any relationship. If your boyfriend is in love with you, he will not only respect you but also respect the decisions taken by you especially pertaining to your relationship. If that is not the case in your relationship, then he is taking you for granted and thinking of ways to get out of the relationship.

Does he pick up fights over trivial things?
If he is continually nit picking at you and initiating fights or arguments over insignificant things, take it as a sure shot sign of his harbouring bitterness about deeper issues. He may be looking for a ways to sever all ties with you.

Does he kiss you frequently?
Has the frequency of his kisses reduced? Is the chemistry that you shared with him missing in his kisses? Are you missing the easy camaraderie that you used to share with him? It only leads to the fact that he is detaching himself from the relationship- both emotionally as well as physically.

Does he remember the special days?
A man only makes an endevour to remember the special days in a relationship if that relationship means the world to him. He may go to that extra length to make the day memorable and special for his lady love. If he is forgetting to wish you on your birthday or doesn’t remember your first anniversary, it signifies that he is loosing interest in you.

If the answer to most of these questions is NO then brace yourself for some heartbreak. However, if you are committed to make the relationship work, then a little retrospection is called for on your part. Commitment and communication are the two magic C’s that can help you salvage this relationship and regain the love of your boyfriend.