“But I don’t have any confidence,” is what I have heard most women say when asked to go and talk to the men they like. So I have chosen to write on this topic and put before you how to overcome this fear in the simplest way I can.

The greatest medicine that can unwind limitless potential from within you is your confidence! And that comes when you are sure yours self and prove it to the world too.

But there’s a battle you have to win before gaining this immense resource of joy. You will have to fight with everything within yourself stopping you from reaching this reservoir of happiness. If you want to be a loser, complaining all you life, this article is not meant for you. But I want to get up and strike back, here’s how you can do it.

The first thing to do is to get off your lazy arse and develop some guts! No one is born with natural confidence as many would have made you believe. Each person on this earth has had to earn it and sometimes it’s a painful process to do so. The simplest formula of gaining confidence is by being successful at things that matter to you. I am not asking you to go out there and be the best at everything you attempt within no time. No certainly not. It is a gradual process and takes a good amount of time to really hit it on the dart!

I’m sure you might know by now that you are what people perceive you to be. So even if your gut shivers over something, the simple process of acting strong often also leads to the development of real strength. This may sound difficult to you but believe you me by acting strong and developing correct habits, you are in a way re-wiring your brain to get accustomed to it so that eventually you’ll no longer have to pretend.

Now the second step is to find interests, hobbies, and work that interest you. Give them your 110%. The key to building real confidence is to string a series of successes together in areas that are important to you whether it be sports, work, or hobbies. It could in any wide range of fields. Once you are on it, work as hard as you can in these areas. Initially it may seem real tough because your laziness and ego may try to stop from doing it but if the fury of your enthusiasm is really intense, you’ll catch up. So with enough hard work you’ll eventually see that successes will start piling up. And the back of your head will start feeling this!

I couldn’t have had put this in an easier way. Now it up to you to make the most of it!

The toughest battle that women fight is learning who they really are. Because until you know who you really are, you can’t respect yourself nor can you come to like yourself in your own skin. And until that happens, when we accuse someone else for not liking us or blame our man for dumping us, we won’t really learn this lesson.
Most women suffer from the fear of being turned down or worse to get dumped and that’s why they don’t get into relationships. But why do you at all think that your man will dump you in the first place? Here is where you need to correct yourself, my friend! You need to happily accept who you are and learn to love yourself. The idea is to be generally happy in life.
The fact of the matter is having a man or many men in your life can only help elevate enjoyment in your life. But before this happens, you need to learn how to like yourself first. You should be happy with who you are deep inside because if you don’t admire yourself as an individual, why would anyone else do so?

The truth is that what really stops people from being happy and successful in life is fear, just like I stated earlier. It could be fear of failure, fear of rejection, of taking action, combined with a lack of direction, or even laziness. It is not uncommon to suffer from this mess of unhealthy habits and emotions which stops us from developing what I call inner strength.

For me, inner strength is a combination of character, correct attitude, and confidence! And true strength comes from having unwavering confidence in your being. In the process of developing these, a woman fights the toughest battle of her life. If she loses she gets defeated by her flaws and if she fights, she finds her way to happiness.

So now that you have a choice, who do you want to be, a loser or a winner?

Have you ever asked this question to yourself? Have you ever wondered what is that one thing which makes you stand out from the rest? Or would you say that you have nothing really special because you have not done anything to make you feel that way? Or perhaps life hasn’t been very kind to you is what you will say.

This is exactly the reason I asked you if you really have it in you. Do you really have it in you to break the shackles of your false understanding of your self and know your true potential? Do you? How many times have you really praised yourself for just being who you really are? How many times have you cursed your life for not giving you the right things in life to make you feel happy? I’m sure; most of us do it all the time!

Why?

If you don’t respect your own self, how do you think some one else outside of you will do that? If your boy friend dumps you because of any reason under the sun, why do you start blaming him for not liking you and ruin the rest of your life impugning him? Alright, enough of questions now! Let’s have some answers!

I want to tell you a story!

There was this poor girl in our college who thought she could never be happy without having a boyfriend. And before we could even fathom what’s gone wrong, we saw this girl jumping off the roof of a huge building. The rumor was that her boy friend had dumped her. Sad but true story!

Let me tell you something that you must not only know but try to imbibe within you as well. The fact is having a boyfriend, husband, M-buddy or any anybody in your life is no passport of being eternally happy. They won’t take away your problems or make your life complete by only being there. Nothing in your life will end until you learn to love yourself the way you are! If you are not confident about who you are in the first place, how do you expect others to like you in the same earnest?

There is a great difference in thinking you are the best and you actually, genuinely and meaningfully knowing your true qualities. This may not hit you in the first go but you need to sit and think about what I’ve just said if you really want to put an end to your endless complaints about life.

It’s time to get up from your deep slumber buddy! You’ll get to hear more of me in my nest article on the same subject! Until then be good and smile a while!