It’s the media and our programming as males that bias our view towards the younger women. There’s this and the ego of men who confuse “harder to get” with “better”. Well, that will only get you so far and if so, maybe it’s time for a wake up call if you find yourself constantly pining for the young “hotties”.

Old women carry their secrets under one of the many sweaters they wear. They guard these secrets as a pyramid guards the ages. One false step, they have learned, could be the last. Old women are simple. No fancy cars . . . or restaurants. No blue tint or breast enhancements. The time for frou frous has long passed. Now the plan is to survive. Old women are sly. They know people take what they want to, so old women circle the wagons, and scout the territory. Slipping in and out of shadows, old women are invisible to people who do not want to see them anyway. They slip, unseen, into the fog of oblivion. Old women are sorceresses. Their magic pulls a crust of bread from a pocket that leaks lint. . . pulls a secluded corner into safety. They let another day be added to their calendar. And old women do as they have done since goddesses ruled the earth - they endure. Old women endure.

For many men, their egos tell them that the young ones are the ones to go for, but let’s look at some logic here. They are usually less experienced, more whimsical. Their bodies are not as matured. In fact, their bodies are only HINTING at the shape they’ll eventually have - that body shape of a women who is sexually peaked, who is in her thirties (sometimes forties), and knows what she wants and likes.

Also, from an evolutionary perspective, women 30+ have less reproductive time left so it makes sense for their bodies to ramp-up the attractiveness to attract mates. And naturally, their interest in sex goes up, and so does their tendency to initiate sex. Can’t afford passivity at this point. And this, combined with more world experience, and fun personality, defines true sexiness in my book.

Older women are just like wine. As they get older they have seen so much through their lives during a relationship with someone who has cared for her for years just because he loves her. It’s like the man starts adoring her more as time spent with the partner counts. This enhances understanding between the relationships of the older couple.

Once upon a time your life was all about your friends. You hung out together, you planned holidays together and you called each other at the weirdest hours of night or day. But that fairy tale ended when you got married.

This is what usually happens .Often when your partner is not a friend already; he/she is usually not familiar with your friends. Sometimes he or she doesn’t want to know your friends better. There may be resentment that you spend more time with them than him or her. There may be jealousy. He may think your best friend is too intrusive, she may think your best friend is too clingy. Both may hate it if the other calls his/her friends at strange times of the night, especially if the friend id of the opposite sex.

You want to preserve your relationship, so you sacrifice your friendship. You make new common friends and tough you try to keep up with your old circle of friends; you give up after a few years. “Almost all of us face this problem for some reason or the other if you cannot bridge the gap between the two relations, you often loose out on friendships, because partners and spouses are definitely the priority or problems might come up in the marriage. “ Experts say though it is impractical to expect your partner to always get along with your friends, some adjustments must be made. “it is oppressive to expect that your partner will like your friends the way you do.it is also oppressive for the partner to make demands regarding his/her friendships on you.”

Its okay if your partner doesn’t like all your friends .However adjustments are a must One must give both parties opportunities to find common ground. Both the partner and the friends should initiate friendship and show each other their willingness to get to know each other better. But if they don’t find any common ground its okay.Thats when you have to compromise. Its important to give your partner time alone with his/her friends. “Giving each other space is really impotant.”

Couples must avoid

• Getting excessively intimate while with friends, it gets embarrassing for the others.
• Being very choosy about what the group should do and time constraints
• Fighting in front of everyone
• Don’t expect your friends to change their plans all the time to accommodate you.