Well, only if it was as easy. We’ve had numerous women in history who’ve tried to decipher and write down how exactly men think but all they could do is only turn them into literature. And the saga is still on. We still have women trying to set thinking patterns of men under specific rules but alas, there are not rules – there can never be any!

Let me tell you why!

This is because men do exactly the opposite of what is expected of them in a particular situation. For instance, if a man likes you, you’ll only be very lucky if you get a smile from him. Else under normal circumstances, he’ll never even let you know what’s on his mind in any way. Yes, he may even ignore you or not even look at you. Don’t be surprised on this because men actually do that.
Their logic behind this is that a woman is the one who should always make the first move. I’ll narrate an incident to you. A couple of years back when I was far too less experienced and you could say shy too, I liked this guy but somehow didn’t approach him thinking that he seemed a little less friendly. Two years back I met him again and was surprised after a drink or two; he asked me why had I not asked him out for date ever? When I told him that he should’ve shown some sign of interest at least, he said that was my job.
Since then I have commonly seen this trait in almost every ‘sensible’ women I’ve met. So now I don’t really think before asking a guy I am attracted to, for a date. What makes it easy for me is I stay prepared for the worst before approaching any one. I mean the worst that can happen is a denial from his side. But then I’ve also been able to date some of the most handsome men around with this new-found confidence of mine.
So the next time you see this damn hot man around you, you know exactly what to do lest you’ll find yourself regretting in the end1

Your date has been arranged with this guy you met at your friend’s place. A few calls and he asks you out. He kind of behaved well with you, seemed well mannered and so you feel like giving it a try. So here you are with him but once the initial greetings have been exchanged, a strange silence falls upon. You first feel he’s shy but he did speak a lot over a phone. He tried talking to you initially but now he’s mum. You have no clue what’s going on!

Young ladies are not new to this kind of situation I’m sure! You meet someone thinking that you finally have someone sensible enough but when you meet, things fall back a tad too differently than you thought. You get confused. Well don’t be because here’s what this exactly means.

Silence can sometimes be deafening. It can speak volumes about what the guy you are dating. If your date has little to say to you, the first implication that this gesture brings is he is not interested in you. Period! If he’s be shy you would know but he’s not.
Perhaps he thinks you won’t really care to hear what he has to say after knowing you. Or maybe you won’t appreciate to hear what’s on his mind. He could be in a sour mood as well. These are some likely reasons of him not being very articulate with you but only you can interpret this. Be careful not to quickly write it off to something as opposed to what it really is.

When such a situation does arise on your date, just be calm, come up with genuine excuse if you feel that he’s showing no interest but is actually wasting his time and yours, greet and leave! In future make sure you’ve known him better in letter and spirit to think of meeting him!

You meet a guy at the country club. He’s good looking, smart and behaves well. Your friend knows him and she assures you that he’s a good guy to be with. After a few sugary calls he asks you out for a date. He comes across as quite a pleasant guy to be with but after some time start to change. He never really states his disinterest to you start sensing an apparent change in his behavior. You’re confused! You don’t know what to do!

I have often had young ladies coming to me complaining about this issue while dating a guy. Amidst all the wellness, something suddenly goes wrong with the guy and you are left guessing at nothing whatsoever!

Well, you know there’s something called the non-verbal mode of communication which every person speaks without being vocal about him self. This primarily includes one’s body language followed by one’s gestures such as eye contact, physical touch, restlessness, so on and so forth. However, in this situation if you confront any of the below listed things, you need to really tighten up strings, my dear! Here they go!

• He starts calling you less or not calling at all
• There’s an apparent change in his voice tone
• He suddenly becomes too busy and does not get any time to
get together
• Even he comes to meet you, he’s pretty late
• He often starts to missing your dates and does not even inform you about it
• Becomes irritable, impatient and his anger outbursts over petty issues take you by surprise!

So if you have experienced any of these or are still confronting, there’s no need for you to move ahead until you talk straight with this guy. These gestures clearly reveal that he is not interested in you any longer and that he is trying his best to show it to you in his own non-verbal way. The best way to come out of this imbroglio is to deal with it in a direct manner without entertaining any excuses from his end!