The biggest blow that comes to us when we lose out in a relationship is our confidence -our confidence in ourself and in goodness of life. We drain ours self to the hilt and then comes a stage when we start blaming ourselves for the wrongs happening in our life. This entire process can be highly fatal to our being causing the lowering of our self esteem.

It is the beginning of a very painful phase in our lives when we get into a war with ourselves where there is anger, sadness and unceasing cruel comparisons with those more successful and happier than us. We start feeling that we don’t deserve to be happy and that we are not needed by anyone.
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Nothing can go worse than we own selves trying to demean our own presence in this world. However, where the world is full of tips talking about we should be strong, not lose ourselves and kick back with vigor, let me tell you that accomplishing high self-esteem does not happen in an instant. This is because living life of great confidence is a great challenge for the one in basking low esteem. You might even try giving your self-esteem a boost but you may get disappointed seeing that it did not after all work out the way you had imagined. Don’t run away or get depressed with this as this behavior is very common and like every other person, you have adapted and grown to believe insecure, making it your home.

You have convinced yourself to believe that you are not good enough and therefore set a subconscious rule that you deserve to feel badly and poorly when you look at yourself. This is exactly where you need to take a few steps back. The first thing needed to be done is giving yourself some unrealistic deadlines. You need to reassure your self of the fact that you will end this and indeed work hard towards it. The most negative ingredient responsible for women failing to regain high esteem is the act giving up. This is one of the leading reasons you look yourself in such a valueless manner.

Another ingredient that adds to the curry is called laziness. This is because even if you wish to change the way you look and feel about yourself, you have grown too lazy to do anything about it. The reason is because you find it easier to stay in the place you are already in. It does not matter if it is an extremely negative position or place. What does matter and needs to be realized is that you have chosen to stay in negativity for so long, that you have become so comfortable with the fact that you do not like yourself. This is exactly why terminating low self-esteem is tough. You handed over all of your power and strength to it, allowing it to dictate your being and the way you handle life.

The best way is to engage yourself in some work such that you don’t get any time even to think about yourself or about anything for that matter. Just dissolve yourself in some result-oriented work so that when results start pouring in, you’ll not only regain your lost confidence but also become aware about your potential as an individual.

Nothing pushes a person down in spirit than relationship failures. Today’s times are beset with issues that turn even the healthiest of relationships into failures. When we continue to confront complications in our relationships for long, there comes a stage when we start blaming life for it. We feel life is being unjust with us and that we are doomed to only face hurtful things in life.

After all, we can’t go on in life like this. We need to put a full stop to the miseries. So what do we do? Now the first thing here is to keep in mind is that don’t expect your surroundings to change in order to bring upon a change in your life by itself. Sometimes we unexpectedly fall in unlike circumstances and even before we can fathom what’s going on, things take control over us. This is exactly what we have to avoid.

Let’s see how!

The basic and the foremost step is to look within yourself and see is there something within you that is causing bad things to happen in your life again and again? Well, you may say that there is nothing wrong with you but nothing in our environment goes wrong without something being amiss in our inner selves. This is the law of nature. If you look deeply into it, you’ll realize that how much ever you blame the circumstances, the people or your life, it s not going to change by simply brooding over it. You will have to take the necessary action.

By action here I do not mean your reaction to something incorrect. By action here I mean looking into yourself and changing your approach towards handling things. Changing your perspective is important. Don’t think or act in a way that dispels negative vibration to your environment. Be patient and calm. Try to look at the deeper aspect of the situation. Why is that thing happening with you? If you are being a bit too aggressive, change yourself. Every problem has an easy solution, only if we think more patiently.

Even if your partner is wrong, don’t upset yourself too much. Pay for his wisdom and happiness. Try and surround your environment with as much positivity as you can and you’ll see that this time things have taken a different turn.

We lose when we get angry, arrogant and impatient because these qualities make us speak and think all the things that must be avoided. This gives air to the fire and everything goes haywire further more!

So keep in mind that your approach to things needs to change before you expect a change in the other person or the circumstances. Once you exercise this, you’ll see that the world has changed for good and that life after all is a beautiful and most importantly, a great teacher!

You’ve been single since a long period of time and now you are desperately in search of a partner who rightly understands you. You have waited so long because you didn’t want to compromise with just anyone entering your life. Suddenly you meet someone good enough. He’s well mannered and is interesting to talk to. You think you have started liking him and one day when he proposes to you, you accept. You feel happy at the prospect but as time passes, you see that he is paying as less attention as possible on you. He seems busier but says he loves you more than ever. Time passes and despite unlike things happening, you stay in denial, waiting that one day the sparks will ignite and your both will be enlightened!

Now tell me how many times have you felt this? I would say that most of us women havee experienced this at least once in our life. For some of us, it is like a vicious circle because we repeatedly confront the same things in every relationship we have. I have decided to address this because such incidents often leave us shattered and cause us injury we don’t deserve at all. So here I am with some signs that’ll tell you whether the man you are seeing is truly inclined towards you or not.

Signs he wants you!

• He keeps calling you regularly and tries to get in touch with you as often as he can.
• He keeps his promise whenever he says so. For e.g. if he says he’ll call you, he does.
• Take care of your personal likes and dislikes such as the types of movies you like, flowers, music, food, etc. and then put in efforts to bring the best of it to you.
• He expresses his emotions to know with little gestures to let you know how much he adores you.
• If chasing you gets you to pay attention to him, he doesn’t even mind doing that.

Signs telling you he is not really interested in you!

• He takes his own sweet time to get back to you and seems to have a bit too casual an attitude towards you. Even if he does talk to you, he does not seem very excited and keeps shut most of time.
• Never really calls you whenever he says so.
• Never does he spend quality time with you nor does he lets you know how he feels about you. Most of times he leaves you wondering about what does he exactly think about you.
• He is never emotionally expressive.
• He is not interested about things that you like; nor does he set up any special dates to make you feel loved or warm.

So now that you know what these signs mean and find yourself still making excuses, trying to overlook his attitude, you’re in for some real massive emotional trouble in near future. Even if you like him a lot and feel that he is even worth making excuses for, are you really happy?? If no, then you already know what to do!