The Non-Verbal Language of Dating – as the name suggests, is the knack of communicating without employing any verbal measures of interaction. There have been myriad books and workshops talking about how body language that speak a great deal about what’s on your mind. Even if you speak something to the best of your ability, your gestures might be rendering a different story altogether if you don’t really know how to carry yourself in sync.

Elaborating this point, let me tell you that there are two ways in which you communicate with your partner. The first is the content, which includes what you say and second is the process which refers to everything else that occurs besides that. This is the reason I‘ve had so many singles reporting confusion to me when it comes to knowing what their date was actually feeling or thinking. On the surface understanding this language may seem a bit difficult to you but with time and knowledge of how it functions, you’ll be able to really fare well eventually.

To start with, let’s focus on the most prominent gesture in this regard which is eye contact!

Now when you are sitting and talking to your date, have you ever noticed how is he  looking at you? What gestures is he reflecting when are speaking to him or vice versa? A simple indication towards this is that when the eye contact is good, it means he is feeling comfortable talking to you and is interested in you. This shows that he is really involved in the communication and wants to be a part of it. It also reflects a person’s honesty and sincerity towards you. On the other hand, when you see your date having difficulty making an eye contact with you, this straight away communicates his
discomfort; absolute lack of interest or in extreme cases, it could be his shyness as well. You can find this out if you are seeing that the person is shy in general as well.

So the next time you go out for a date, observe this in your partner and you’ll know where both of you are heading towards. More in my upcoming articles on the same subject so keep reading and be good!

You are in love with a guy who’s given you the best of times, has been immensely caring and given you more than you could ever ask for. Everything is sailing fine until one day the inevitable happens and you find yourself separated from him. You world comes down to a closure. You just can’t fathom what has happened and why. You feel distressed to the core, knowing nothing what to do.

Months pass by but that calls for no change within you. You are still a prisoner of your past. Every moment of every day you remind yourself of the pain and suffering you went through when you broke apart and then of the good times you’ve had. You are sure that no one else can ever bring you those happy times or perhaps you fear that everyone will be hopelessly flawed, because that is just the way all relationships are, especially for you.

You know this is the sad story of most of us around. But the shackles have to be broken sooner or later, lest you’ll see yourself swinging in this vicious circle repeatedly.

So how do you change this negative thought process of yours? The most important thing is to examine what your beliefs are and try to connect them with at least one past experience you’ve had. You may also include in it, your any childhood experience with your relationship of your parents, grandparents, and any other adults you were exposed to at that time. What was your general impression of those bonds? What were your conclusions about those relationships? Do those perceptions hold any connection with any relationships you have had while dating with men?

You’ll see that you’ve come up with some really interesting and useful conclusions by the end of it all. My reason of asking you to do so is all the experiences you’ve had have added up in your mind to develop a perception of how relationships generally fare. Hence that makes you to act in a specific way whenever you confront such a situation.

So now that you know the cause behind your negative pattern, you must make a conscious choice to avoid those thoughts from coming to you when you date someone. Decide to be open and to see every new person and unique experiences brought by him in positive earnest. Just be yourself and go with the flow without thinking much!

Well, you have landed at the right place if you want to save yourself from the dating ordeal if your guy displays body language stated as under!

Before taking off let me tell you that direct verbal communication is not the only way to know your partner effectively. You can gauge your partner only by observing his body language, even before he starts to speak. If you ignore this, you are likely you fall in a dump of confusion and regret at the end of it for not knowing the real him.

So here’s an instance telling you how to go about it!

Now the subject I’ll be talking about today is stiffened or closed-in body posture!

If you see your guy having a posture that’s too closed and he speaks only when you ask him a question or so, the reason behind this could be more than his shyness. If a guy is out rightly shy, you’ll know it in the first place itself. But if he is not and is displaying a body posture that doesn’t seem to open to you, you got to guess what’s on his mind!

Just think what do you do when you feel uncomfortable about something or with someone?

1- You fold your arms tightly
2- You straighten your spine
3- You cross your legs tightly
4- You turn your body away from the person you are facing
5- You try your best to lean away from the person you are with

On the contrary, if you like someone, you:Lean forward

1- Have your arms relaxed or lay them open to the person
2- Face the other person directly and look into his eyes
3- Maintain a posture that relaxed and at ease

I think you have answered your own query. The person is displaying a closed-in posture means he is NOT interested in you.

So if this is your first date with this person, it’ll probably be the last one too!