When you meet a guy for the first time what interests you in him the most? It’s perhaps his physical appearance that does the initial magic in your heart towards him. Like it’s said, “the first impression is the last impression”, the initial impression about a person is made by looks and personality. But with time there are several things that bring a person closer to you. Apart from physical appearance, intellectual and emotional attraction is very important for any relationship to work in the long run.

Who doesn’t like a charming face but talking of intellectual and emotional attractions, are we more attracted towards people whom we are similar to, or those from whom we are different? Its human nature to crave for things that one doesn’t have and not care about things one knows they posses. So it’s a more lavish thought to have a partner who is perfect i.e. who is a master of the things you lack in life and similarly it’s a pleasure to have qualities you feel your partner lacks!

A woman would always want her perfect man to be everything she wants and everything she needs and be everything from inside she wished she could be. Like it’s said about couples totally opposite in nature “even though they are different, they compliment each other in many ways”. In other words it’s not the difference in qualities but the complimentary nature that enhances the attraction. Such attractions modify into love pretty soon!

On the contrary, there are some people who prefer partners similar to them. Eventhough the general rule of the society is attraction of the similar; it at times becomes crucial from career point of view. Having a partner who is interested in the same field as you are and competing with him everyday when you actually look for support is not such a good feeling. Having someone who has a different lifestyle at times opens doors for a wider social circle and a life full of variety. But in such cases the point to be kept in mind is that both people should have understanding amongst each other. If people have different interests, then it becomes very important for them to respect each other’s opinion.

For opposites to click in a positive way they should have a comfortable level of acceptance and both should have one thing in common i.e. mentality. The rest of the qualities may be different.

So ladies, the next time you look for your satisfactory potential partner, try moving your eyes towards the opposite lot as well because you never know the man who is different from you may complete your precious life!

You may be one of those who find it difficult to confront with the opposite sex when it comes to love and romance. If you are too shy it might affect your relationship negatively.

Here a few tips that will help you overcome shyness:

Try and find out the reason of your shyness, if you know the reason you can focus on it well and get rid of your shyness in due course of time.

It is important that you have a positive approach towards life and about yourself. If you are shy you might have a low self confidence and it will be difficult for you to reach out to the feelings of your guy.

If you really want to get rid of shyness always have the urge of eliminating it at the back of your mind.

Look in the eye while speaking with men if you want to attract them towards yourself.

Move out of your home and go to places where you will meet lot of men and you will know how to deal with them and talk to them.

Try to be happy and keep laughing. Read joke books and online e jokes for a change or engage yourself in doing things you enjoy they may refresh your mind and ease the tension and make you comfortable when you amidst guys.

If you get shy on dates and can’t think of anything to talk about try asking your date lots of questions about him.

If you are not able to get rid of shyness by your known efforts you can join a personality development class.

Walk upright this will boost your self confidence and help you get rid of shyness.

Breathing is a good exercise whenever you feel your heart racing take a deep breathe. If you really start to feel uncomfortable excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

Listen to what he is talking about; if you don’t understand ask him what he likes about the thing he is talking about.

The above mentioned tips will surely help you work on your personality and get along well in your relationship.

Women generally go overboard in a relationship because they think with their heart and are emotional. For them life revolves around the guy they are involved with. Courtship is often referred to as dating with a purpose.

Following are a few courtship tips for women:

Only consider courtship at a time in your life when you are ready to consider marriage and mentally prepared for everything so that you don’t regret later. You need to figure out if you gel with the person or not.

Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.

Always get into a relationship with a guy whom you would marry not with any and every guy because eventually you might have to marry a guy you would not have otherwise. You might get attached to guys you were dating for fun.

If you are not certain that you will marry him or not you can remain friends until you are sure of your decision.

Never speak too much the first time you meet. Let him do the honors so that you can study him well

Keep your initial dates brief and keep him interested in you.

Try and spend time with the guy’s family to know them before you actually get married. See how he treats his family because if does not respect them he will never be able to respect to you.

Give enough time to learn about each other. Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship.

Analyze the way he treats you, if that’s satisfactory. He is your kind of guy and then you can think about getting into a relationship with him.

Decide your physical limits. Set your own guidelines.

Don’t reveal everything about your life right way. Let the relationship grow with time so that you find it easy and comfortable to confide in him. Never reveal information you don’t have to.

Keep the romance in your relationship alive. Don’t let other things take over.

You can wear his favorite color on a date to make him feel that his likes and dislikes matter to you.