You must be wondering as to what has being intelligent in any way has to do with dating? Let me tell you how it is important!

Suppose you have finally found someone interesting enough on net and you guys have started spending a good amount of time talking to each other. You both then switch on to the phone and you feel all the better I knowing him this way. He sounds good, seems to have a decent sense of things and you also think that he is comparatively more sensitive than other men you’ve dated. You finally feel that this could be the beginning of something real in your life and you feel elated anticipating a date with this person. The person feels the same and thus you guys decide to meet one day after work. A perfect plan for a perfect date!

You fix a nice coffee house for the venue. You also spend some extra bucks to look your best that day. You are slightly nervous but feeling extremely positive about it.

Against your anticipation, you get late by a good 30 minutes because of heavy traffic and this makes you feel awful and rushed. When you finally face each other, you can easily sense that he is a bit annoyed with you. You get a bit restless due to this and simply forget to give a friendly shake or warm hug before sitting down. You seemed to get so moved by being late, that you start giving explanations to him about the bad traffic, the awful workload and your difficult boss amidst apologizing again and again for being late.

In some you see that he has started looking at his watch and within next 30 minutes he tells you that he has to meet someone for some important work and leaves.

So did it really come out the way you anticipated it? Well, certainly not, I’m sure! But could you make out what went wrong and where! No, you needn’t blame the traffic or your work in anyway.

Let me tell what you could have done!

In such situations, if you are disturbed by something mentally before meeting your date, it is important to gather yourself and collect your thoughts before facing him. Talk to yourself or take a few deep breaths so that you calm down. Even if he seems a bit annoyed when you meet him, your personality should be such that your assurance and warmth as a person just leaves him awe of you. Giving a genuine smile and a warm hug would have completely distracted him and within no time, your conversation would have hit the pleasant grounds!

This my dear, calls for having higher levels of self awareness and the assurance to take charge of things and correcting yourself before the situation attacks you. THIS is what is called being emotionally intelligent.

So the nest time, you decide to meet your date for the first time, you know what to do ad how! Wish you great success!

If you an independent young damsel, often confronted with dating failures despite you being attractive, you have landed at just the right place to know its reasons and remedy as well. Don’t be worried, it’s all about knowing some tricks of the trade and applying them as glibly as possible!

One thing you need to understand most clearly and that is, men are not the same species as we women. They are different and so it’s no use trying to equalize their masculinity by competing with them in areas only they are best suited to. Where most women fail is in knowing the purpose of the first date. More often than not, they start focusing on things such as compatibility, past relationship history, so on and so forth. These are matters a bit too heavy to be focused upon on your first date. Never and I mean never try to do that on your first meeting itself. This is the time you should invest in making your partner believe that he has chosen the right person for himself. Only after both of you know each other fully well as individuals should you indulge in talking about serious matters as stated.

So the first thing that a woman really needs to be concerned about for her first date is conveying her femininity. That is the most reliable way of making an excellent impression on your guy. In order to achieve this, there are three essentials that need to be taken care of. These are:
Wear a dress - Men like women in dresses because it radiates softness urging a man want to hold and cuddle her.
Always wear a smile – Smiling at men always makes them feel more self assured and confident about your persona. Only if you’ve ever noticed, men love smiling women because a smile radiates a lot of positive energy which indeed attracts men.
Let him speak – Men feel honored when they are listened to. Letting the guy speak first conveys respect which is every man’s greatest desire, even more than being loved. You ought to show him that you have the ability to be the woman he has fantasized about.

These things makes a man feel masculine and he will naturally feel attracted towards you because the first date is not about showing your valor; it is about being graceful, being elegant that a girl should ideally signify. And you think that these suggestions are silly or sexist, then I am afraid to say, it’s high time you start understanding men.

First dates are usually a great way to gauge the all important 3 C’s – chemistry, compatibility and communication. After all what matters at the end of the day is the quality and the strength of the relationship that you intend building.

Sound foundation of any relationship should not be based entirely on passion between two people though it may be an important ingredient.

On first dates, it is more important to concentrate on having a good time than to worry about the kiss. The key to a great and successful first date is the comfort that you enjoy with your partner. Spending your entire date thinking and agonizing about kissing on first date may act as a deterrent in you enjoying the evening and getting to know him.

A kiss on the cheek is a common greeting. And so is the “goodnight kiss”. It is entirely your prerogative where you want to end your date– in bed with him or in bed but alone!!

It may be hard to know where your relationship might lead to on the first date. No matter how much you think that it is the ideal case of love at first sight there may be a chance of things not going your way. For all you know the guy might have stinking breath!!!

Most guys expect a lip lock which they would like to end in their beds. However, not everyone is a fan of kissing on their first date. Here are a few suggestions on how you can avoid kissing on the first date.

Your right to say no: First you need to realize that it is completely within your right to say no to being kissed on the first date.

No mixed signals: While out on your date be sure in your mind about what you want. Don’t give him signals that are confusing and might be interpreted in such a manner that is contrary to what you want—no kiss!

Set the rules: You can set the rules at the beginning of the date through your behavior and body language and be consistent the whole time. Don’t flirt with him and or look him in the eyes for too long.

Wear a dark coloured lipstick: In fact, I suggest you wear red lipstick on your first date because guys won’t attempt to kiss you with it on!!!

Remember in order to experience a truly breathtaking first kiss you must do it with someone you really care about. Someone who makes your heart beat faster and your pulse race. Otherwise it’s just another kiss that is unexciting and dull. So do not kiss someone just to say you’ve been kissed. Kiss someone who really means something to you.