Eighty percent of today’s population suffers a relationship failure because of not listening to their inner self. As women,we are the ones, who suffer the most from this glitch as we are highly sensitive and when we keep confronting complications for a long period of time, we often tend to lose our tolerance. We further lose the battle when we enter the vicious circle of relationships with the same hurtful end again and again.

Before you get depressed and start complaining about how life treats you, let me tell you a simple way out of it. The foremost and the only thing that can rescue you from this glitch is by looking into yourself and developing certain abilities. Once you do that, you’ll never fail in handling any relationship imbroglio, come what may!

Let’s find out!

The most important thing is to have trust in your perceptivity. Perceiving does not mean only thinking about or scrutinizing something for that matter. It is the ability to size up the truth of a situation or a person by emotionally sensing the reality about it. It is about being emotionally intelligent, about being smart enough to gauge an affair’s exact status.

I am saying this because we women don’t think much while falling in a relationship. If the guy impresses us in the first few dialogues exchanged, we instantly start dreaming about him as our life partner, as the perfect person we have been waiting for all this while. But what we fail to see is what lies beyond the face value of the person. I mean the real face of his personality, to gauge whether he is just trying to impress us or is being genuinely nice to us. These are some essentials which most of us miss because we choose to ignore any other facts about him. We force ourselves to believe that he is the right person and that nothing can go wrong with him in our life now.

The aphorism “Don’t guess, perceive” is my advice to all the ladies on this. Perceptivity arises from trusting yourself, from having faith in following your own intuitions. So whenever you meet someone who really impresses you in the first go, just lie back and ponder. Listen to what your inner voice has to say about it. Ideally since women are sensitive, they can easily sense whether or not a person is trustworthy or right for them or not. All you have to do is let this voice become clearer.

Just try this once and you’ll never fall into wrong decision making ever again. You can have my word for it!

How often have you heard a guy saying “call me” but then never really heard from him again. But he did ask you to call, didn’t he? Let me tell you that these two words can play big games with a woman if she is not exactly aware about what does this exactly mean. Women certainly think differently and thus often end up misinterpreting signs men out forth for them. Let’s delve a bit deeper and know what the inside story actually is.

The most important thing you need to know is the only time it is good to hear ‘call me’ from a guy is when you are already talking to her on a regular basis. This means that he is actively pursuing you and would be thrilled to hear from you. This shows that he already loves talking to you and wants you hear more of you. Nothing can be better than establishing a communication in this way as this will then set the tempo for your future.

But as a part of the conversation you were once having with a guy, he asked you to call him and then took your leave, he was NOT meant to be taken literally. Well yes, even if the guy is smart, attractive and you would love to know more about him, calling him again and again won’t really help.

Let me tell you why. When a woman keeps calling a guy time and again without limiting her calls to special occasions, they become less and less welcome at the other end. If you end up calling at a wrong time, your call can eventually become a matter of great annoyance and a time may soon come when the guy may just stop attending your calls.

A man must spend time thinking about you in order to fall in love with you. So if you keep calling him constantly, it’s like never really giving him an opportunity to share his mind space with you.

When men say ‘you can call me, I am in a hurry right now’ , it clearly means that he just doesn’t want to be too rude to you by saying that I am not really interested in you so please let’s not waste each other’s time by talking just for the heck of it. In other words it means, “Call me – a year from never”!

So next time this happens with you, make sure you don’t take it too literally and simply back off the moment you hear it.

We often talk about impressing men in the first date. About trying out all that we can to show him that we are intelligent, we are smart and make for a perfect partner as far as they are concerned. There are a hundred myths like these when it comes to being successful on the first date but how many do you think really succeed. If you want to know the truth, none of these really work well.

We women, go over board in strategizing things at times. The moment a guy asks us out, we start imagining all sorts of things of what should we do so that we can strike the cord with our guy really well. But why do we still of striking that cord? Isn’t that the reason why he has asked you out with him? I mean, the cord has already been struck,  the momentum set and now all you need to do is let him take the lead and see what thrill does he bring to your life on your first date.

In our last article about the same we spoke about you taking the back seat when it comes to planning the evening and letting your guy decide upon things.

Let’s continue further now.  The next mistake that needs to be avoided is;

Never offer to pay for the meal

No matter how independent you are or how much ever equal you may consider yourself to men, stop playing the man in here. You are a woman and your grace lies in acting like one. Men are different beings. They don’t take things the same way as you do. They have their own set of understanding which can’t change by any assertions or actions. They are made that way. So being chivalrous and gracious enough to take care of their ladies, suits men the best. And especially on the first sate, the guy is more concerned about pleasing you than spending a few extra bucks. So keep your cool and let him have the honor of impressing his lady love.

Our forthcoming articles will have more tips on the little but noticeable bloopers we often end up committing that come at the cost of broken relationships even before they’ve been formed.