We often talk about impressing men in the first date. About trying out all that we can to show him that we are intelligent, we are smart and make for a perfect partner as far as they are concerned. There are a hundred myths like these when it comes to being successful on the first date but how many do you think really succeed. If you want to know the truth, none of these really work well.

We women, go over board in strategizing things at times. The moment a guy asks us out, we start imagining all sorts of things of what should we do so that we can strike the cord with our guy really well. But why do we still of striking that cord? Isn’t that the reason why he has asked you out with him? I mean, the cord has already been struck,  the momentum set and now all you need to do is let him take the lead and see what thrill does he bring to your life on your first date.

In our last article about the same we spoke about you taking the back seat when it comes to planning the evening and letting your guy decide upon things.

Let’s continue further now.  The next mistake that needs to be avoided is;

Never offer to pay for the meal

No matter how independent you are or how much ever equal you may consider yourself to men, stop playing the man in here. You are a woman and your grace lies in acting like one. Men are different beings. They don’t take things the same way as you do. They have their own set of understanding which can’t change by any assertions or actions. They are made that way. So being chivalrous and gracious enough to take care of their ladies, suits men the best. And especially on the first sate, the guy is more concerned about pleasing you than spending a few extra bucks. So keep your cool and let him have the honor of impressing his lady love.

Our forthcoming articles will have more tips on the little but noticeable bloopers we often end up committing that come at the cost of broken relationships even before they’ve been formed.

If you an independent young damsel, often confronted with dating failures despite you being attractive, you have landed at just the right place to know its reasons and remedy as well. Don’t be worried, it’s all about knowing some tricks of the trade and applying them as glibly as possible!

One thing you need to understand most clearly and that is, men are not the same species as we women. They are different and so it’s no use trying to equalize their masculinity by competing with them in areas only they are best suited to. Where most women fail is in knowing the purpose of the first date. More often than not, they start focusing on things such as compatibility, past relationship history, so on and so forth. These are matters a bit too heavy to be focused upon on your first date. Never and I mean never try to do that on your first meeting itself. This is the time you should invest in making your partner believe that he has chosen the right person for himself. Only after both of you know each other fully well as individuals should you indulge in talking about serious matters as stated.

So the first thing that a woman really needs to be concerned about for her first date is conveying her femininity. That is the most reliable way of making an excellent impression on your guy. In order to achieve this, there are three essentials that need to be taken care of. These are:
Wear a dress - Men like women in dresses because it radiates softness urging a man want to hold and cuddle her.
Always wear a smile – Smiling at men always makes them feel more self assured and confident about your persona. Only if you’ve ever noticed, men love smiling women because a smile radiates a lot of positive energy which indeed attracts men.
Let him speak – Men feel honored when they are listened to. Letting the guy speak first conveys respect which is every man’s greatest desire, even more than being loved. You ought to show him that you have the ability to be the woman he has fantasized about.

These things makes a man feel masculine and he will naturally feel attracted towards you because the first date is not about showing your valor; it is about being graceful, being elegant that a girl should ideally signify. And you think that these suggestions are silly or sexist, then I am afraid to say, it’s high time you start understanding men.

What is the first thing that enters our mind when we think of a first date? Well, impressing the guy, isn’t it. Our focus lies in striking the cord with the guy and indeed trying anything and everything in trying to do so. Unlike what you would have most often heard or seen your friends doing, let me tell you that you wouldn’t have been going on a date, had the cord not struck between the two. So the notion is all wrong to start with.

The most essential things that need to be kept in mind are the mistakes girls often end up making on a first date. You’ve impressed your guy and that’s the reason he has asked you out. So you needn’t worry about doing that anymore. All you need to do is avoid doing these things.

This may take more than one article as I would want to elaborate upon each of these for better understanding.

Avoid being a planner

The best way to know your partner is to see how he goes about planning the entire date. What most women really dread is men asking their lady out for a date and then turning up at their doors asking them  what needs to be done and how! Well, to justify it to an extent, men do so because they don’t want to face the risk of rejection, once they’ve planned the day their way. Ideally it’s the men who should take the lead and decide upon things.

If he does ask you anything out of courtesy, don’t just jump into suggesting how he can better his time plan with you. Leave the ball in his court and so this most politely by saying,” I’m not very sure, you please go ahead with what you have in mind”. This will set the beat that since he is the man, it is his responsibility to plan the evening to please you. However if your doing so, shows you off as a snob, let it be. If he is so insecure that he needs you to plan the evening, then I think you’ve already had your answer and all I would say is ‘Good Riddance’.

This is the one of the foremost things that’ll give you a very fine idea about your guy. Remember that if you ignore this at this point, you are likely to face this recurrently with him. So it’s time to decide now and forever!