“ I have contributed as much as I could in this relationship but got nothing in return. Perhaps you don’t need me anymore so I think its better that we go our separate ways.” Doesn’t this statement form the underlying cause of most break-ups we see around us, now a days?? Why does the disappointment engulf us so much that we become ready to take on the pain of living without the person we ardently love and want?? Let’s have a look!!

It is a terrible lie to say that each partner has to contribute his/her bit to make a relationship successful. There is nothing like 50:50 ratio that needs to be fulfilled for a prosperous long-term relationship. The truth is after the mystical magic of today’s glamorous weddings, our expectations for a fairy tale marriage leads us down the road to disappointment and disillusionment. And the victims that mostly fall in this genre are we, the women.

However, men usually don’t tend to understand the reason behind their ladies accusing them for not giving enough time to their relation. A relationship does not always require flowery words or figurative expressions to describe the emotion. Women are sensitive, soulful beings. Even little gestures like bringing a bud of wild flower does make the day for women. But shouldering responsibility to know what your lady love likes and likes not is as necessary a thing is eating your meal. For, women live by these small things which may not add to a relation in particular but makes a great difference in general. But men don’t really think in the same way.

They may seem to be more responsive to physical acts of love, which again helps in bonding strongly with your partner if channelised properly. However, women dwell more in platonism and frustration is bound to come when this aspect is not tapped.

Thus we tend to say that, “ I’ve had enough.You’re selfish. If you really loved me, you’d understand what I need. I’ve been giving and giving and I get nothing in return. You don’t give me what I want anymore.”

So its not the 50-50 deal that will ever help you get your partner respond to you. Differences and Intimacy are a recipe for conflict. More than being focused on how much you are ‘giving’ it is more important to have faith in the goal of a winning relationship and working mutually (with 100% dedication) to achieve it.

“ I have contributed as much as I could in this relationship but got nothing in return. Perhaps you don’t need me anymore so I think its better that we go our separate ways.” Doesn’t this statement form the underlying cause of most break-ups we see around us, now a days?? Why does the disappointment engulf us so much that we become ready to take on the pain of living without the person we ardently love and want?? Let’s have a look!!

It is a terrible lie to say that each partner has to contribute his/her bit to make a relationship successful. There is nothing like 50:50 ratio that needs to be fulfilled for a prosperous long-term relationship. The truth is after the mystical magic of today’s glamorous weddings, our expectations for a fairy tale marriage leads us down the road to disappointment and disillusionment. And the victims that mostly fall in this genre are we, the women.

However, men usually don’t tend to understand the reason behind their ladies accusing them for not giving enough time to their relation. A relationship does not always require flowery words or figurative expressions to describe the emotion. Women are sensitive, soulful beings. Even little gestures like bringing a bud of wild flower does make the day for women. But shouldering responsibility to know what your lady love likes and likes not is as necessary a thing is eating your meal. For, women live by these small things which may not add to a relation in particular but makes a great difference in general. But men don’t really think in the same way.

They may seem to be more responsive to physical acts of love, which again helps in bonding strongly with your partner if channelised properly. However, women dwell more in platonism and frustration is bound to come when this aspect is not tapped.

Thus we tend to say that, “ I’ve had enough.You’re selfish. If you really loved me, you’d understand what I need. I’ve been giving and giving and I get nothing in return. You don’t give me what I want anymore.”

So its not the 50-50 deal that will ever help you get your partner respond to you. Differences and Intimacy are a recipe for conflict. More than being focused on how much you are ‘giving’ it is more important to have faith in the goal of a winning relationship and working mutually (with 100% dedication) to achieve it.