Finding a perfect mate for some women is a dream they live almost everyday of their lives where as for some it is just an illusion. Where the world and the literature is full of examples telling us that there’s exists a dream partner, present times have a different story to tell.

I am not against the fact that we can’t find a perfect mate for ourselves. We surely can but our approach towards this search does not suit the present scenario or rather no one should ever employ that thought thinking she’ll find a man of her dreams one day.

See the fact is when we first create an image of the kind of person we want in our life, it becomes static in our mind. We have exact boundaries of what should the person be doing, thinking, eating, dressing and behaving. And when we start meeting real men around us, we are never able to relate to any of them because we feel that they are somehow not fitting into our image-eligibility criteria of accepting them as our partner. So even if we like someone but he is a shade different from the image we are bearing in our mind, we drop him. And so our search and wait for our perfect mate goes on and on and on.

You know if we get a bit deeper into this, this like a rat race which possibly never ends. No man (made up of flesh and blood) can fit into the criteria of being your perfect one until you learn to accept his uniqueness as a person. Every individual is different in his own way and your mind (unless you are god) can ever carve out the exact qualities a man will ever have and then dream about it.

What is important for you to think is what do you really crave for as a person? Once you become aware about your own innate self, you learn that meeting different people and appreciating their uniqueness isn’t a burden on you. Once you are sure of the basic thing you seek in a person, the rest can be just put to god because you never know a wonderful person may come your way and make you happier than you ever thought to be with the virtual man in your mind.

The idea here is to be open as a person; take time to meditate as to what is important in your life and you’ll never victimize yourself with an image and spend all your life around it.

Last heard, stress, depression and anxiety wreak havoc on the libido. Not exactly is this the breaking news stuff but much more pertinent today than ever. Since the times are worrying and too much of competition is killing the happy you The worries are eating you away. And if the man doesn’t share this havoc with his wife, he may be adding up to his problems.

If you avoid the sex, or if you show less interest in it, then your wife may suspect you of having an affair or loosing interest in her, etc.
The reason behind this kind of thinking from her side is surely due to the lack of communication, if you do not tell your wife about the crisis you are facing and this is the reason you are not able o get close with her physically, she is bound to think negative and grow crazy thinking negative.

Stress is a big buzz kill in bed, but the non-denying fact is that it also helps you come physically close in the troubled times. Sex certainly helps you share your problems more genuinely. To give you a nice quote about it, it is not just about unbuttoning your man’s shirt, but about unbuttoning his heart and his worries and yup becoming more close to his heart.

But with worries regarding your mortgages and the bills to pay, sex actually takes a back seat. But you must not forget, it is not about having sex, but it is about being together. If you are not up for sex then make sure that you must opt for activities which involve physical closeness. Some sports like swimming, tennis, biking, cooking or gardening, or say jus simple exercise can bring you close. Do anything which you think can bring you close, the only thing being that you stay true to yourself and your man about your feelings.

Nothing beats physical closeness your relationships lifesaver. Like they say, the best things in life are free. And sex is not only that but a great way to burn calories, relieve tension and forge bonds, which for one, can’t be liquidated. And thank god for that.

If you ask a woman whether she’s ever been jealous or not in her life, she’d be lying if she denies it. Jealously they say is the most frequent emotion felt by females around the globe. Though there are many reasons leading to it and it is only human to feel so, it can become dangerous if you don’t keep in under control. Many a times despite knowing that we are heading in a wrong direction, we are not able to put a halt to it. However, if we know the source or the cause of it, controlling it becomes much easier.

Let’s find out!

I do understand that when you feel jealous, it does not come out as a conscious well-thought out feeling. All you know that you are feeling that way, right? Here is exactly where you need to stop, my friend. I know it will be difficult for you to do it, but every time you feel jealous, make a conscious effort to ask yourself why you are feeling that way. Is it because the person you are in a relationship with is providing you with enough reasons to feel his way or is it because of your self esteem?

Well, if you think otherwise, let me tell you that feeling jealous is a good way of lowering it. So no matter what is the cause behind you feeling this way, it is important for you to conquer it else it can cause massive damage to your self-esteem. Now over here you need to think as to where is your jealousy coming from and then try to find our why does it make you jealous.

Many women feel jealous with other females when they see that they are getting more attention from men than them. You know a simple thing to understand here is that no one is same in this world. Each of us are born with a certain set of unique qualities which are special only to us. And when we work hard to become the best we can be, we become attractive in our own special way. A great depends on people getting attracted to someone as well. If they are genuine and sensible people, see what it is that is making them so fond of the other female. If you feel the quality in her is genuine enough, you should respect it and appreciate her to be that way. But if you want to capture the limelight too, work hard on yourself to be better than your best and you’ll see that you have already improved a great deal as a person.

There is no need to feel bad about people running after materialistic or shallow things. If you feel jealous when your boyfriend talks to other women, is it because of the fear of being betrayed by him? Well, such kinds of insecurities do creep in but it is also very important to maintain a balance in your relationship. If your guy is simply talking on a casual basis, there should be no harm in you feeling bad about it. Your focus should be on strengthening yourself as a person. If you know yourself as an individual and are confident about the qualities that define you, you’ll never feel in secured or jealous of anyone.

So from now on, make a conscious effort to take a pause and dwell on what makes the real you, strengthen yourself and you’ll never go off track.