After the best you could do to bring back the passion and ardor you once shared with your partner, there is still something going amiss and you know not what to do. You love your mate like anything and you want to get back that sense of longing once again. Here’s an answer to your imbroglio!

The first thing you need to accept is that nothing remains constant. Time is transitory, we as people are in constant transition and so are our circumstances as well. Therefore as your bond with your mate deepens, you will undergo many experiences and stages in it when your romance may not be in its most active phase. The reasons could be anything – stress, work load, anxiety due to financial pressures, anything. In such situations, when we women see our partners losing interest in us, we try doing everything they like but still are not able to ignite their attraction for us.

Now the most important thing to be kept in mind here is that this in no terms means that love and the desire between you two has been lost. These are times when you have to not just think like a partner to your mate, but like a friend. Don’t we turn to our friends when we depressed about something? Why? Because we know that our friends will always have the compassion and empathy to understand us and guide us through the issue.

This is exactly what you need to do for your partner in these circumstances. Understand him! This may require a little more patience on your part but the best way is to let go off your expectation from him for sometime and be with him as a supporting companion. When your mate will see you are trying to be so considerate, he will automatically divulge his problems to you so that you know the reason behind his being so disparate lately. On the other hand, if instead of trying to know the reason behind his changed attitude, you start blaming him for his unlike behavior, he will only try to move away from you. Unless your partner feels that you really want to know what is going on in his life, he won’t share it with you. Your understanding with him should be such that he himself comes to you shares his blues with you.

Thus the idea here is to be his best friend and never let him feel lonely or take refuge in his own secret world. All you have to do is be a little compassionate and act patiently whenever you see your partner behaving otherwise!

Women generally go overboard in a relationship because they think with their heart and are emotional. For them life revolves around the guy they are involved with. Courtship is often referred to as dating with a purpose.

Following are a few courtship tips for women:

Only consider courtship at a time in your life when you are ready to consider marriage and mentally prepared for everything so that you don’t regret later. You need to figure out if you gel with the person or not.

Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.

Always get into a relationship with a guy whom you would marry not with any and every guy because eventually you might have to marry a guy you would not have otherwise. You might get attached to guys you were dating for fun.

If you are not certain that you will marry him or not you can remain friends until you are sure of your decision.

Never speak too much the first time you meet. Let him do the honors so that you can study him well

Keep your initial dates brief and keep him interested in you.

Try and spend time with the guy’s family to know them before you actually get married. See how he treats his family because if does not respect them he will never be able to respect to you.

Give enough time to learn about each other. Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship.

Analyze the way he treats you, if that’s satisfactory. He is your kind of guy and then you can think about getting into a relationship with him.

Decide your physical limits. Set your own guidelines.

Don’t reveal everything about your life right way. Let the relationship grow with time so that you find it easy and comfortable to confide in him. Never reveal information you don’t have to.

Keep the romance in your relationship alive. Don’t let other things take over.

You can wear his favorite color on a date to make him feel that his likes and dislikes matter to you.

Finding a perfect mate for some women is a dream they live almost everyday of their lives where as for some it is just an illusion. Where the world and the literature is full of examples telling us that there’s exists a dream partner, present times have a different story to tell.

I am not against the fact that we can’t find a perfect mate for ourselves. We surely can but our approach towards this search does not suit the present scenario or rather no one should ever employ that thought thinking she’ll find a man of her dreams one day.

See the fact is when we first create an image of the kind of person we want in our life, it becomes static in our mind. We have exact boundaries of what should the person be doing, thinking, eating, dressing and behaving. And when we start meeting real men around us, we are never able to relate to any of them because we feel that they are somehow not fitting into our image-eligibility criteria of accepting them as our partner. So even if we like someone but he is a shade different from the image we are bearing in our mind, we drop him. And so our search and wait for our perfect mate goes on and on and on.

You know if we get a bit deeper into this, this like a rat race which possibly never ends. No man (made up of flesh and blood) can fit into the criteria of being your perfect one until you learn to accept his uniqueness as a person. Every individual is different in his own way and your mind (unless you are god) can ever carve out the exact qualities a man will ever have and then dream about it.

What is important for you to think is what do you really crave for as a person? Once you become aware about your own innate self, you learn that meeting different people and appreciating their uniqueness isn’t a burden on you. Once you are sure of the basic thing you seek in a person, the rest can be just put to god because you never know a wonderful person may come your way and make you happier than you ever thought to be with the virtual man in your mind.

The idea here is to be open as a person; take time to meditate as to what is important in your life and you’ll never victimize yourself with an image and spend all your life around it.