So how many of you have been surfing on net and sitting for long hours on dating sites hoping to find someone you’ll be making  the greatest romantic connection with? Well, most of the times, isn’t it? In spite of spending so much time on it, do you feel that you are nowhere and that you are doomed in this whole online dating business? If yes, then its time to stop feeling sorry about yourself!

If you think that you are only being unlucky in this genre, you are wrong. Luck has no role to play in it. If you are doing just what other women also do, you are probably dating in a blindfolded manner, because you don’t even know what you are doing. If so far you have been unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your dating patterns, it is time for you to take a few steps back and see where exactly are things not working for you.

Since we women are sensitive people and being lonely vulnerable as well, we often getting carried away in the process of finding the right guy for us. After some time we forget the fact as to why did we decide to date people online in the place? What are the qualities you want to see in that person and which qualities are you ready to compromise with? What are YOUR needs and desires behind getting into all this? Do these parameters stay in your mind when you talk to someone? If I answer on your behalf, I don’t think many of us really remember these things while chatting with someone. If we don’t get the right person to talk to for a long time, we probably try our chance with everyone we meet online.

So how do you avoid this?

Simple – by being in constant touch with what do you really want from your lover. When you start talking to someone, you won’t take much time in realizing if the person fits in your parameters, if you keep your mind alert. And the moment this thing strikes you, it is best to drop the guy there and then if we you feel he is even a little less than what you want. There is no need to compromise in any way. So your decision making in this regard has to be quick or else you’ll drain a lot of energy unnecessarily from yourself in dating someone just for the heck of it.

You might think that you’ll be hurting his emotions if you stop talking to him in this manner but remember that there is nothing personal between you and him still so you can make an excuse and just strike it off – in a polite manner of course!

This way you will save yourself a lot of mental energy and will always be in a judicious position to determine if someone is right for you or not!

So take these things into regard the next time you go in for online dating and you’ll never disappoint yourself!

As girls and as women as well, the female genre (at least most of us)have always dreamt of a perfect mate in our lives, who’ll understand our needs even before we speak, remove our inhibitions and bring out the best in us will his love and nurturing. We all dreamt of this man who’ll match our inner image of a woman and will make us proud to be their partner. Does this thing really exist? Can we really find a perfect partner? Let’s find out!

Where most of us force ourselves to believe that there is someone made for us and that we find him one day, some think that bearing this kind of a thing in mind is only an act of defense, preventing a real life person from winning our heart. I have dwelled in this kind of situation myself and have also spoken to numerous women about their take on it. What I have realized can’t be put into one affirmative or disapproving statement.

Actually the fact of the matter is the yearning for a perfect mate manifests itself differently in different women and has myriad consequences in a woman’s life. Some realize what they’re feeling and do get a man of their dreams. Others are entirely unconscious of what is going on inside and eventually think that it is rat race that’ll probably never end.

I spoke to a lady who said that she was seeking perfection when she came across an extraordinarily handsome guy with the best of everything and she thought life’s been more than lucky to her. She thought she has instantly fallen in love with him (where it was actually a crush) but the emotion died soon because gradually he had started getting on to her nerves. Loving him for his physical aspects seemed to be a very superficial thing then and from that time on, she has never been really attracted to someone just because of one’s looks.

Where this is an instance of falling victim to one’s false perceptions, the reality is slightly ironical. One of the most important aspects of waiting for the perfect lover is the belief that the person will always stay just the same. Based upon a specific image, rather than the reality, we believe that our man can never be touched by the ravages of time. But when we seek an image, rather than reality, things inevitably fall apart. So the idea here is to have firm conviction of one self and be open about the guy’s real persona.

This is because only a strong sense of self, based on inner values and self respect will permit the woman to create a solid relationship that will last through time and make it fuller and richer.

Wish you a very Happy New year my friends! I pray the dawn of this New Year brings for you all successes in life and immense sunshine in your love life! Let’s pledge to make this year unique by living life true to our own spirit and turning in into a spring of happiness for yourself as well your beloved!
The New Year is standing before us, its arms spread wide to welcome us into a new future! How well we employ this New Year to bring in all the untouched happiness for us is now our prerogative so here I am with some subtle advice for all my readers. All year long you have reading solutions or advices to all kids of fluxes that occur in a relationship. But in this one, I’ll tell you about a secret path that’ll help you discover the real being in your partner, the innermost voice of his/her which makes him/her the individual he/she is.

This year pledge to learn the unique love language of your beloved! Whether you have just gotten together or are in a relationship since long, there it is a unique love language spoken by each one of us in our own way. Some let the silence do the talking, some try to come up with thoughts in a subtle way and some speak it with hugs and kisses! If you have been wondering what is it that has been lacking in your relationship despite you trying to do whatever you possibly can, it is this thing which you might be losing upon.

The fact of the matter is not all individuals are vocal about it. In fact no one is vocal about it. This is one thing which needs to be discovered and once you know it, it greatly contributes to the emotional strength of the bond shared by you.

Even in your innate moments, your partner may not be able to openly divulge his/her desire. In the process of knowing each other through talking or just spending some time together by being around, you will have to observe what is it that your partner likes. Some like to be bestowed with little surprises, some feel taking a day off with your partner for no reason makes them feel special, some may just love holding out hand silently while walking beside you. These are some simple things you’ll learn only if you try to observe with patience and compassion the emotional responses of your lover.

Hence if you still do not know the love language of your beloved, take this opportunity to now discover it in your unique way and you’ll see that doing little acts of compassion for your partner will fill him/her with so much warmth and ardor for you that you never might have imagined!

Knowing each other’s love language will then open doors to a new genre of bonding for you and you’ll actually discover what true is really is. Living this I would say will be like living true to one’s spirit!