In simple words, communication is the only key responsible for healthy, lost-lasting relationships. By communication here, I don’t mean simply talking or whiling away your time speaking just anything or nothing. Let’s find out the true essence of communication between partners.We all know how important and necessary communication in a relationship is. It is one of the key features responsible to make it strong, firm, loving and resilient against anomalies. But I have often seen women completely clueless about exactly to talk about in a specific situation. The art of real communications comes in when you and your partner are confronting a rift and each of you blame each other for all the wrongs happening between you two.

Now the most important thing over here is to understand your self first. By this I mean you should be aware about your attitude, your reactions to things and most importantly your approach to things in different situations. Because once that happens, you’ll be able to communicate the same to your partner as well. The idea is to make your partner known about you and vice versa so that you can develop concrete understanding between the two of you. Nothing keeps a relationship healthier than understanding each other and becoming familiar with your personas.

The style of communication may differ between different partners. That is what you have to discover between the two of you. Women are generally more sensitive than their counterparts and hence it becomes mandatory for you to find a way out in an unlike situation lest you’ll fall into dumps of suffering and sadness.

Now lets see what do you do actually do when beset with trouble with your partner. You start pointing out to your partner what he is doing and what he is doing not. In other words, you start blaming him for the causes of your reacting in that way. You may be true depending on the situation but it is also important that you take responsibility for reviewing your own actions as well.

It is very easy to point out other person’s mistakes but when it comes to looking in your self , it becomes much harder to accept criticism even from yourself because no one wants to be wrong. And this is where you need to get real about things. This is where you need to also accept the things done by you which contributed to the imbroglio. If you start shouting, the argument will lead no where.

Hence my advice would be to be calm and put forth your point of view with absolute poise and grace. This is because until you do that, even your partner will not pay heed to you. Speaking calmly in a sound manner will also avoid any misunderstandings which eventually lead to unneeded arguments.

Hence be patient and communicate with grace so that your partner accepts whatever you want to convey with respect. It is difficult only as long as you want to look at it that way! Right form of communication is all you need to make it!

Its very common practice prevailing in every family, every relationship you accept it or not. On asking a common lady she dimples back and says “no, fighting over money –such an ugly thing isn’t it? ‘ your money, my money’ is something that the neighbors do. It happens to others. Not to us. Not really.”

Of course, most things being equal-the same level of education, income, ‘wavelength’-the fight over money, or how to spend it, is quite rough tackle these days. How can you tell the other off or keep a tight hold on the purse strings when each of you carries a wallet and the money that isn’t in it? Here is how you can set some ground rules and break them when need be without sounding the other out on responsibility not caring enough. There is no need to make it sound as if you all are ending up at cleaners.

Hold the key

1. Don’t be hands off. This is taking the fight over money to an opposite extreme. Be involved and keep track of your own accounts. Both spouses need to be responsible for the household budget-if you actually have such a thing.

2. No blame game- do not blame each other for any past financial problem.

3. Do not ring up your parents or friends and ask them to take sides in this.

4. Discuss all major purchases with each other before going through with it and take into consideration how your partner feels.

Power games

Do not play power games in a relationship. The boundary and hierarchical differences between men and women lead to clashes and money decision making.

Talking sense

1. Share your old hurts, resentments and fears about money. Mention your concern and fears about your partners spending.

2. There is no need to divulge your pin or password. While you may trust your partner absolutely, there are certain things that you must keep absolutely confidential and this is one of them. We can’t like for granted that a relationship will last forever.

3. When such an unfortunate split happens, it has been noted that some partners do misuse the trust placed in them.

Over 60% of arguments that couples have are related to money matters .Divulging accounts starts, Pins and passwords can sometimes result in unnecessary fiction between couples. So it is best to sort out financial matters at the beginning of a serious relationship and if you are earning and spending your own money, there is no real need to divulge the amount that you spend apart from your purchase the amount you decide to invest or save.

Dumping is truly an art form. The more you date, reject and finally dump, the more the lines drip from your mouth like honey. Never stay in a relationship past its sell by date. while the romantic edge haze of being in love or the initial reservations of an arranged marriage may behind you to certain aspects of your future spouse’s personality, it is important to look for early warming signs that tell you whether your partner is actually right for you. Let’s take an example as the girl says “no goodbye” to the guy when asked if he could call inspite of the fact that the girl spent the whole day with him. At this the guy’s heart explodes into a billion fragments.

Ain’t these gals becoming wiser? Well “it’s better to lie than to tell the truth” that is what girls are going for. The very high of falling love or getting married often keeps us from focusing on the not so good side of our partner. While none of us is perfect it is important to observe our partner and check for signs that display a personality that may be dysfunctional, Abusive or controlling. These signs are early indicators of whether your relationship will last or not.

Technology has made life easier. If you are a chicken to break up with someone face to face then text messages are a painless option. All you need to do is give a concise reason for your decision and mention that when he calls you, you will explain in detail. The beauty in this is that very often they don’t call back!

There are 3 biggest reasons for a break up:
• Lack of communication
• Black mailing
• Involvement of third person

While one doesn’t advocate rigidity or a deliberate seeking out of flaws. It is important to look for these warning signs. What do you do when the truth is hurtful or silly? Simply blame yourself make an excuse about needing to do soul searching to find your true purpose of life. You could use anything as long as it spares you from listening to the faint shattering of his heartstrings. It hurts less when he knows the fault is with you and not him.

Of course, should he have cheated on you or hit you or indulged in any other despicable act, sparing his feelings goes out the window. No matter how you choose to dump his degenerate self-just do it!