After the best you could do to bring back the passion and ardor you once shared with your partner, there is still something going amiss and you know not what to do. You love your mate like anything and you want to get back that sense of longing once again. Here’s an answer to your imbroglio!

The first thing you need to accept is that nothing remains constant. Time is transitory, we as people are in constant transition and so are our circumstances as well. Therefore as your bond with your mate deepens, you will undergo many experiences and stages in it when your romance may not be in its most active phase. The reasons could be anything – stress, work load, anxiety due to financial pressures, anything. In such situations, when we women see our partners losing interest in us, we try doing everything they like but still are not able to ignite their attraction for us.

Now the most important thing to be kept in mind here is that this in no terms means that love and the desire between you two has been lost. These are times when you have to not just think like a partner to your mate, but like a friend. Don’t we turn to our friends when we depressed about something? Why? Because we know that our friends will always have the compassion and empathy to understand us and guide us through the issue.

This is exactly what you need to do for your partner in these circumstances. Understand him! This may require a little more patience on your part but the best way is to let go off your expectation from him for sometime and be with him as a supporting companion. When your mate will see you are trying to be so considerate, he will automatically divulge his problems to you so that you know the reason behind his being so disparate lately. On the other hand, if instead of trying to know the reason behind his changed attitude, you start blaming him for his unlike behavior, he will only try to move away from you. Unless your partner feels that you really want to know what is going on in his life, he won’t share it with you. Your understanding with him should be such that he himself comes to you shares his blues with you.

Thus the idea here is to be his best friend and never let him feel lonely or take refuge in his own secret world. All you have to do is be a little compassionate and act patiently whenever you see your partner behaving otherwise!

One fine day you see that your partner has become a bit irritable, the warmth seems missing and things start to fall out. Since you have your own of expectations from your partner, you get irritable too when you see him acting otherwise. What is the first thing you do in here? Well, if I talk on behalf of most female populace, women get depressed, they think their time with there is over or have an argument with their partner over it. When your partner too does not seem very helpful in behavior, you lose connection with him and your tolerance reaches its upper limit.

How fair do you think this act is? Yes, you are bound to get irritable and upset when your partner does not respond the way he should but do you think this is YOUR right way of acting in such a situation? Let me tell you what’s missing here!

The first thing you need to accept here is that being in a relationship is a process. It is a meandering process and only after journeying through myriad ups and downs, a relationship grows strong and resilient. The same holds true for us as well. We s individuals can’t just grow strong overnight. There’ll be times when we’ll not be in our best of spirits and there’ll be times when we’ll fight the world out with our grit. The thing to be understood here is you need to understand that your mate may not always act the way you have thought. Every person in this world chooses his own way of learning things. So if you see that he is not the same as he is supposed to be, don’t start thinking that your love and passion for each other is over.

You need to be patient, understand that there can be times when he will not be in his best of moods. Try to be considerate of his mind state. Try to know what is bothering him. Just let him be for sometime and then patiently ask him what’s gone wrong. Shouting at him or blaming him without even knowing the cause behind his behavior will only spoil the broth further more!

You should be prepared to see that your partner can not always act in the way you want. The same may hold true for you as well. So if you see an unexpected change in him, don’t panic. Take it in your stride with magnanimity and you’ll see that things have become right again even before you imagined!

Fear can destroy even the best of bonds. It stands as the only poison which can slowly devour a relationship even when everything else is just right. Whether it be doubt surrounding you, arrogance, impatience or stubbornness, each of these features arise from fear and hence can not only lead to relationship failure but also self destruction and self-deprecation.

I have often seen women brooding over their partner’s flaws. Yes indeed, I understand your plight but whether or not you want to be a part of that anxiety for long is a choice only you can make. If you see that your partner doing something you don’t like and you start becoming arrogant or intolerant wit him, do you think it will help in any way? I’m sorry to say it won’t. The best way to erase this glitch from your relationship is to first let your partner have his space and then talk to him patiently about it. If he truly loves you, he’ll accept it and realize his mistake with full grace. If not, don’t panic.

Fear can be disastrous as it can cause you to be unreasonably possessive for your mate. Every individual needs to have his own space to think and learn things in his own way. You must understand that being over pensive about every action your partner can make him feel strangled and suffocated. If you lift yourself a bit higher in thought, you’ll realize that everyone needn’t always according to your will. As long as there is warmth and spark in your bond, you should be compassionate enough to let your mate live his life in his own way.

Also fear is a by-product of the false personality and when you shift your identification. A major life task each lifetime is to erase the neutralizing effect of this chief feature so that you can reach your goal. So learn to live life with a happy heart, taking everything in your stride. If your partner is truly yours, he’ll never elude you and if you two are not meant to be, how much ever you try to impress him, he’ll still leave. So just keep yourself calm and experience the joy of life. Always remember that happy things come to happy people! Fear has no role to play in it!