So how many of you have been surfing on net and sitting for long hours on dating sites hoping to find someone you’ll be making  the greatest romantic connection with? Well, most of the times, isn’t it? In spite of spending so much time on it, do you feel that you are nowhere and that you are doomed in this whole online dating business? If yes, then its time to stop feeling sorry about yourself!

If you think that you are only being unlucky in this genre, you are wrong. Luck has no role to play in it. If you are doing just what other women also do, you are probably dating in a blindfolded manner, because you don’t even know what you are doing. If so far you have been unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your dating patterns, it is time for you to take a few steps back and see where exactly are things not working for you.

Since we women are sensitive people and being lonely vulnerable as well, we often getting carried away in the process of finding the right guy for us. After some time we forget the fact as to why did we decide to date people online in the place? What are the qualities you want to see in that person and which qualities are you ready to compromise with? What are YOUR needs and desires behind getting into all this? Do these parameters stay in your mind when you talk to someone? If I answer on your behalf, I don’t think many of us really remember these things while chatting with someone. If we don’t get the right person to talk to for a long time, we probably try our chance with everyone we meet online.

So how do you avoid this?

Simple – by being in constant touch with what do you really want from your lover. When you start talking to someone, you won’t take much time in realizing if the person fits in your parameters, if you keep your mind alert. And the moment this thing strikes you, it is best to drop the guy there and then if we you feel he is even a little less than what you want. There is no need to compromise in any way. So your decision making in this regard has to be quick or else you’ll drain a lot of energy unnecessarily from yourself in dating someone just for the heck of it.

You might think that you’ll be hurting his emotions if you stop talking to him in this manner but remember that there is nothing personal between you and him still so you can make an excuse and just strike it off – in a polite manner of course!

This way you will save yourself a lot of mental energy and will always be in a judicious position to determine if someone is right for you or not!

So take these things into regard the next time you go in for online dating and you’ll never disappoint yourself!

If you ask a woman whether she’s ever been jealous or not in her life, she’d be lying if she denies it. Jealously they say is the most frequent emotion felt by females around the globe. Though there are many reasons leading to it and it is only human to feel so, it can become dangerous if you don’t keep in under control. Many a times despite knowing that we are heading in a wrong direction, we are not able to put a halt to it. However, if we know the source or the cause of it, controlling it becomes much easier.

Let’s find out!

I do understand that when you feel jealous, it does not come out as a conscious well-thought out feeling. All you know that you are feeling that way, right? Here is exactly where you need to stop, my friend. I know it will be difficult for you to do it, but every time you feel jealous, make a conscious effort to ask yourself why you are feeling that way. Is it because the person you are in a relationship with is providing you with enough reasons to feel his way or is it because of your self esteem?

Well, if you think otherwise, let me tell you that feeling jealous is a good way of lowering it. So no matter what is the cause behind you feeling this way, it is important for you to conquer it else it can cause massive damage to your self-esteem. Now over here you need to think as to where is your jealousy coming from and then try to find our why does it make you jealous.

Many women feel jealous with other females when they see that they are getting more attention from men than them. You know a simple thing to understand here is that no one is same in this world. Each of us are born with a certain set of unique qualities which are special only to us. And when we work hard to become the best we can be, we become attractive in our own special way. A great depends on people getting attracted to someone as well. If they are genuine and sensible people, see what it is that is making them so fond of the other female. If you feel the quality in her is genuine enough, you should respect it and appreciate her to be that way. But if you want to capture the limelight too, work hard on yourself to be better than your best and you’ll see that you have already improved a great deal as a person.

There is no need to feel bad about people running after materialistic or shallow things. If you feel jealous when your boyfriend talks to other women, is it because of the fear of being betrayed by him? Well, such kinds of insecurities do creep in but it is also very important to maintain a balance in your relationship. If your guy is simply talking on a casual basis, there should be no harm in you feeling bad about it. Your focus should be on strengthening yourself as a person. If you know yourself as an individual and are confident about the qualities that define you, you’ll never feel in secured or jealous of anyone.

So from now on, make a conscious effort to take a pause and dwell on what makes the real you, strengthen yourself and you’ll never go off track.

As girls and as women as well, the female genre (at least most of us)have always dreamt of a perfect mate in our lives, who’ll understand our needs even before we speak, remove our inhibitions and bring out the best in us will his love and nurturing. We all dreamt of this man who’ll match our inner image of a woman and will make us proud to be their partner. Does this thing really exist? Can we really find a perfect partner? Let’s find out!

Where most of us force ourselves to believe that there is someone made for us and that we find him one day, some think that bearing this kind of a thing in mind is only an act of defense, preventing a real life person from winning our heart. I have dwelled in this kind of situation myself and have also spoken to numerous women about their take on it. What I have realized can’t be put into one affirmative or disapproving statement.

Actually the fact of the matter is the yearning for a perfect mate manifests itself differently in different women and has myriad consequences in a woman’s life. Some realize what they’re feeling and do get a man of their dreams. Others are entirely unconscious of what is going on inside and eventually think that it is rat race that’ll probably never end.

I spoke to a lady who said that she was seeking perfection when she came across an extraordinarily handsome guy with the best of everything and she thought life’s been more than lucky to her. She thought she has instantly fallen in love with him (where it was actually a crush) but the emotion died soon because gradually he had started getting on to her nerves. Loving him for his physical aspects seemed to be a very superficial thing then and from that time on, she has never been really attracted to someone just because of one’s looks.

Where this is an instance of falling victim to one’s false perceptions, the reality is slightly ironical. One of the most important aspects of waiting for the perfect lover is the belief that the person will always stay just the same. Based upon a specific image, rather than the reality, we believe that our man can never be touched by the ravages of time. But when we seek an image, rather than reality, things inevitably fall apart. So the idea here is to have firm conviction of one self and be open about the guy’s real persona.

This is because only a strong sense of self, based on inner values and self respect will permit the woman to create a solid relationship that will last through time and make it fuller and richer.