The most important thing for a relationship to work is the trust factor. That is what determines how understanding you are to each other and how much you feel for each other. Trust can make and break relationships and it does. We have often heard relationships and marriages breaking up over infidelity. There can be many reasons, which end a relationship or a marriage, but cheating is an unforgivable offence as cheating cannot be condoned. Whether your boyfriend flirts around with another girl or your fiancée plays around with other women during the engagement or it’s your husband having an extra marital affair, the ramifications are immense. It all leads to messy confrontations followed by break ups and an ongoing sense of hurt and betrayal. It is hard to imagine the man you love is cheating on you, but once if you get over the initial intensity of emotions and start thinking practically, you feel foolish. If there is one thing a human being hates, it is to be made a fool of. You will feel pathetic if you start thinking that your man was cheating on you behind your back while you still loved him beyond doubt.

So, how would you know that your relationship is for real or not? Here are some ways you can follow: -

When your partner starts working late very often.
If your mate usually comes back home on a particular time but suddenly starts coming late consistently then there is a problem. Getting late for some work overtime once in a while is pretty normal for the working class, but if its consistent then there is no harm if you put up some questions asking the reason why he is late. There might be an office project that makes him work late, but a few questions can be put up. If the reasons are lame and meaningless, then the alarm bells should ring!

If he starts getting defensive
In a relationship or marriage, two people share their lives with each other and everything included in it. If you ask something to your mate and he doesn’t seem interested to answer any of the few questions you put up and starts getting defensive over it then there might be a problem.

If he goes out with his friends exclusively
If he goes out very often saying that he will be meeting his pals over lunch or dinner and refuses to take you with him saying things like “you might get bored as its guys only” then try checking or asking casually about the whereabouts of some of his so called close-friends. Be very casual when you ask, as you don’t want him to know you are doubtful about his loyalty.

If he spends lavishly without any reason
If his credit card bills suddenly start reaching the sky and he is not so clear in answering if questioned about it then you have to get cautious as he might be shelling over some other woman.

Check out the above facts and judge your partner well.

Relations need to be handled and tackled with utmost care. Women often end up expecting too much from their husbands. You want him to support you in every walk of your life. This may not happen and you may decide on a divorce with him. You are probably at a point where your stress levels are high, your feelings are hurt, and you wish to end the relationship there and then.

There are a few mistakes that women usually make in a divorce, which should be avoided.

• You often tend to assume that the man in your life must support you in the lifestyle you are used to living in. Don’t mislead yourself by assuming that he will do so. Accept the reality of life and come out of your dream world.
• Demanding justification or revenge for misconduct such as in infidelity is one of the greatest mistakes women indulge themselves in.
• Never present your spouse with divorce papers in embarrassing places and also avoid arguing about who gets what.
• Women also fail to review credit cards and other obligations that are held jointly with the husband. If you don’t do so it will affect your debt-to-income ratio when you apply for credit in your own name.
• You should never assume that you will get the custody of the children. It will be the judge who will make the decision and it may or may not be in your favor. These days fathers also take an active role in parenting. The main factor the court looks for is that who can be the best caretaker of the child.
• You should never become passive. Speak up whatever you feel.
• Women often tend to underestimate the cost of raising children. If you do so you might run short of money and this may cause problems in bringing them up.
• Avoid talking ill about your spouse in front of your kids. This may hamper their relations with him. You don’t like him this doesn’t mean you will keep your children away from their father.
• Women are usually not aware of the overall, pre-divorce financial situation. In such situations it becomes difficult to divide the assets if you don’t know what the assets are.
• Avoid being driven by emotions.

Once you have made the decision to go forward with the divorce,you need to be honest to yourself and have the courage to face it

In a relationship, the person who apologizes is usually the person who did something wrong. If you love someone the apology will come easily. Fights happen in all relations the mantra is how well you tackle it and apologize. You should not be ashamed to say sorry to each other.Don’t say sorry to your guy when you haven’t done anything wrong. You are not a doormat that you will say sorry so that you don’t fight. He should be able to respect your feelings .If he forces you to apologize always; he’s treating you as a child, and trying to be in charge of the relationship. This shows that he doesn’t have respect for your feelings. You should think about the love of your life once again.

Here are a few tips on how to apologize:

• When you have an argument, it’s always nice if both of you apolozise.This will not make anyone feel inferior.
• Before saying sorry you should be clear of the reason why you are sorry. You should also think about how the apology will make the other person feel. Put yourself in your guy’s shoes and think how is he feeling and what should you do. Try and explain him the fact that you would never intentionally upset or hurt him.
• Try and talk to him sweetly so that he is a little more calm and apt to talk. Then ask him what you did wrong that hurt him so much. This will help you understand better what act of yours can cool him down.
• You can plan a special dinner for the two of you. Cook him his favorite food and dessert. Light some candles. Make your house a romantic hub. Make him feel you are doing your best to please him. Make him feel special and wanted.
• Apology gifts can be an effort that you can make to say sorry to him. Keep in mind that they absolutely aren’t necessary for an apology to be effective.
• You should say sorry to him when you really feel it. Don’t just say for the sake of saying.
• Feel the situation, and give him some space. Give a sincere apology, when you think it’s the right time. Give him adequate time to recover. Don’t be impatient.

Apologizing is important because if you don’t do so, the person hurt will never forget it. He will have the grudge throughout his life.