No relationship is perfect. Remember these words in mind while beginning any relation. But yes, always everyone gets into a relationship believing it to be the best they can have.

You get into a relationship expecting the guy to be the right one. You do things that you both feel that are compatible with each other. But then you get shocked and surprised after seen the relation to be broken drastically within just couple of weeks.

Picking the wrong men
Ever found yourself in midst of a wrong choice of man? Do you find yourself picking the wrong men to have a long term relationship with knowing that he has difficulty in commitment yet you ignore the signs and still get involve only to be disappointed again. Ever thought of staying in a relationship expecting him to change for you?

Your self image
Never expect men to take you always in the same way you are. The low self image may hurt you in getting the right man for yourself. You may dress well outside and the inside of you feel less than, a feeling that you do not require the best that life has to offer.

Difficulty in disengaging
It may be easy for you to put an end in getting on with him physically. But putting an end to going out with him may take time. This means there is a difficulty in disengaging with the relationship.

Being a victim
Are you feeling yourself a victim as is doing things against your values? Do you do this fearing the person you love may leave you?

Do you deserve it
Ever felt that you do not deserve to have the best relationship as your inside is not showing the outside? Then you need to change this by creating new ways of behaving with you.

Conclusion: Problems may arise in your relationship with your mate. But stop looking to fix another and take care of you.

Being single is something everyone wishes after they are engaged. On a more serious note, I feel one should never feel the need of getting engaged, rather there us a time for everything. And it will happen when there would be the right time for it to happen. Be grateful for what you have. After the grieving period, focus on what you do have for example, good health and a good support system of family and friends.

Don’t be afraid to invest yourself in deep relationships with other people. You don’t have to be dating somebody to have an intimate and fulfilling relationship with them. Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable sometimes.

You should be able to decide for yourself if there are aspects of your life or your personality that you would like to change and do it. You are your best evaluator. You don’t need to listen to those people who tell you that you are single because you are too “picky”, too fat, or too old to meet someone else.

HERE ARE SOME ADVANTAGES

1.   Ignore the toxic people in your life. It is easy to recognize them. Their negative words of fear and discouragement sap your energy.

2.   Think about all the things you can do because you are now single. You could take off and go traveling without discussing it with somebody else. You can watch TV all day without being called lazy. You don’t actually have to do these things but, sometimes, just the knowledge that you could is enough to make you feel great.

3.  Invest in yourself. Save some money and get a professional massage. Get a manicure and pedicure…. anything that nurtures your body and lifts your spirit.

4. You can do whatever you darn well please.

5. Shave your legs and the razor is never dull from his face.

6.  Not only is your razor not dull, who needs to shave at all now?

7. You can leave bra and other unmentionables in view

8. You can slump around the house in any old thing.

9. You don’t having to think about birth control, calendars or ovulation10.You can go out and flirt as much as your heart desires, without a worry in the world.

10. You can have male friends without having to defend yourself and explain that nothing else is going on.

11. You can finally see all the good videos — the romantic, cheesy films. (Get some ideas girly videos in our Chick Flicks area.)

12.  No one grossing out over Tamp ax wrappers being anywhere in the house.

13.  You don’t have to wear G-string panties unless you want to wear them.

14.  You can have sexual gratification at any time, not just when the sports games are over

15.  You don’t have to deal with anyone’s grumpy, moody personalities

16.  You can get the juice/cheese/toilet paper/videos/CDs/take-out that you want.

17.  You can spend as much time as you want with your family and nobody’s lip will drag the ground

18.  You don’t have to worry if he will or won’t call

19.  No more arguments about things you can’t explain

20.  You can have a clean bathroom with the toilet seat where you want it.

21.  Not only are your dinners free when you go out on those first dates, but they take you out to nice places.”

Now that you are single, you will discover that there are some ignorant friends, family and neighbors who think that being single means you are desperate and stupid. Don’t be offended. Just drop them from your close circle.