A fresh new year is on the threshold once again and just as we start our journey in the new one, let’s commit to make it even better than the older one! Let’s vow to remove all the glitches from our lives so as to share a bond stronger than ever before.

Every year brings with it myriad experiences – some pleasant, some not-so-pleasant ones and then leaves us at the threshold of a new one, to make a new beginning, a beginning of hope, better bonding and happier times. I’m sure each one of us thinks the same way but how do we actually make this happen? How do we really make a conscious effort to actualize our dreams about making our relationship ever so beautiful? Because we all know that thinking is one aspect and doing it the other. So let’s have a look at how both men and women make a conscious choice towards achieving distinction in their relationship:

 The most important thing you need to actualize is considering your relationship and family to be your topmost priority. How many times do we really cancel our work schedules in order to celebrate special days with our partner? Every time we are asked about it, we are ready with an excuse or our work seems more colossal to us at that moment than the emotional importance of that occasion. In the New Year, make a conscious effort to avoid it because until you do that, you won’t to be able to feel the eternal bliss that comes with making your partner innately happy.

 The second most important thing is put your hands and feet on and live all your vows to the core. This will greatly strengthen your bond and add a great deal of security to your relationship.

 Resolve to contribute your absolute best in your relationship. Take care of little things your partner never expects you to even notice and see the change in your bond. You’ll feel innately happy to see the warmth in her/his eyes when you do this.

 The most important thing couples in relationships even a decade old miss is understanding the emotional needs of their partners. Every individual has his or her own necessities based on his/her nature which needs to be rightly addressed to bring in a feeling of completeness in a relationship. This New Year, make a conscious effort to know what it is and be honest in your effort towards it.
Whether your relationship is in its nascence or a decade old, it constantly needs to be rejuvenated, nurtured and bred on passion, understanding and a common goal of helping each other grow into beautiful human beings. Why not make this New Year a witness to this beautiful beginning?

One of the key things needed to make a relationship survive is to respect your partner’s space and understand him. Its said- the farther away you are, the closer you get. So at times distances of length and time are essential to make each other grow fonder of each other. That makes you understand the importance of the other person in your life. Giving space doesn’t mean ignoring each other’s needs and emotions. It means to cut short the “too many questions” you ask him at times thinking you deserve to know everything! It maybe irritating at times if you keep on asking questions like- what, when, where on every topic every now and then. If there is something he needs to share, he will come to you ultimately no matter wherever he goes before that. Console yourself by saying, there is no place like home and to him you are his house of thoughts and secrets!

At times your man maybe with his friends watching a match, partying or sharing some guy- stuff with his friends, he cant be with you. But that doesn’t mean you will start doubting his love for you. It is just that like every other person he also has a life of his own which involves a social network of friends and colleagues. He can be in low mood due to some tiff at work or family and needs to be left alone. Let him be for a while and then start speaking. It is definitely understood that its hard to give space to a person you care for when all you want to do is help. You have to honor their request and let them get themselves together and most of all not take it personal when they say things like- “that’s something I am working on”! if you are a nurturer and always want to help people, then the “giving space” thing becomes really hard as you are not able to help someone you care for. It in a way disturbs your mind that the other person is in trouble and there is nothing you can do! Its not easy, but you have to keep hanging in there!

It is a very hard thing to do but will be a very wise move on your part. The time, during which your lover needs space, you can do things you like. Things that you like to do on your own and even try some new things so that you have many interesting talks to carry out and discuss when he is finally out of his nutshell. So, it is better to let your precious things go for a walk at times. Don’t hold on to hard but don’t even let it go. Hold him gently so that the love remains passionate and not ugly due to over possessiveness.

All relationships have ups and downs. Maybe that’s what brings life and adds spice to it. Its well said -don’t count the number of years you spend together but, just make sure that every year that goes counts and you make every moment wonderful and special. For this it is important to be happy together as after a relationship, happiness becomes inter-linked- if one is happy, ultimately both are! But as always it is important to be in good terms to avoid fights. Fights mostly happen as you at times pick on each other about insignificant things and create tensions where you actually wanted to generate harmony. It creates an emotional turmoil in you and unwanted irritation makes you feel all the more miserable.

You might have heard people say-fights are healthy for a relationship. Its because when you fight you express your feelings and constructively generate the energy and fire. Fights are the result of positive constructive forces in your life. But it does hurt you and your partner a lot. It is so because you resist the energy behind them. In most situations, fights are perfectly fine and healthy. They come from a desire to secure your relationship. Here are some general fighting strategies: -

• LOVE FIGHTS: - They are healthy as mentioned above and makes you express you inner frustration and anger. Speak your heart out and enjoy the challenges. Don’t step back or be afraid.

• Use your psychic power:- psychic power means your ability to channel your desires, wants, ambitions. These are powerfull channels.

• Scream your heart out! Don’t be afraid of what lies behind you temper. Express what you want. Just let it out!

• Be firm and direct. Repeat your message until he gets it! Don’t go in circles and speak the direct message.

• Never underestimate yourself. Don’t blame yourself after every fight is over. Don’t let anything or anyone put you down.

• Express, don’t suppress! Don’t keep all the feelings inside you. If you have anything against your partner just let it out at one go! Keeping things hidden may trigger yet another fight which might not be so healthy like the previous one and may harm instead.

The best way to avoid fights or get over them is to be truthfull. If you are not honest with you partner, then trust in your relationship spells “mockery”. This may lead to bitter arguments and ultimately the death of the beautiful relationship you cared for with all your heart.

When you go to sort things out with you mate, be firm about your points if the maximum fault is his. But if you are the one to blame, then put down your ego and apologize genuinely to your sweetie!